my daughter is 12 and going on 13 in june. so far she has 3 A's, 3B's and a D in one class. i noticed she seems to not listen when told by her father that she needs to come home because its dinner time but she wants to stay out later. I find that she says littlelies to get her way, i think she thinks that i dont know she is being sneaky like that but i know. she is also mean to her younger sisters. im not that sure how to handle the situation. i mean i got so upset and yelled at her. I told her that the only way she was able to even think aout going to this concert is that if she brought home her last report card from school and it showed all A's and she had to be nice to her sisters adn learn to say sorry and stop giving an attitude.
2007-05-13 19:41:17 · 7 answers · asked by GirlyWorld 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Didn't you do the same at her age? Get down to her level once in a while and have girlie chats. Then encourage her to come up to your level now and again and discuss more mature things.
Gaining her respect rather than demanding it will help no end. You will find that things can be talked about more readily and problems will get solved.
2007-05-13 19:47:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good for you--12 year olds do NOT run the house--we were all 12 at one time--we all did our lies and stuff--but now you are a parent--the 12 year old will be home when you say and will act as a mature sibling---and talk like a human being. She is just testing you--so be prepared. Lies??? No concert for lying---got to learn sometime. by the way 12 and going to a concert??? I don't think so !! tell her to do her homework and give her some chores to help around the house. No concert.
2007-05-13 22:08:18 · answer #2 · answered by fire_inur_eyes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to put your foot down. She is just getting to that age when she will begin to test her limits. Don't give in. Tell you husband that he is not to give in either. If you don't stop this now, you will have big problems later!!!
Asking for straight "A"s unless she is normally and honor student may be a bit harsh. But definitely make sure that there is an improvement in her grades and her attitude before she is allowed privileges. Tell her that the only thing that you have to do for her is provide a home , food, clothes,and an education. Anything else that you do is considered a privilege, and privileges need to be earned!!!
2007-05-13 19:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best to have some established rules. Teen years are the most difficult years to manage. You must be firm, stay cool, do not threaten or yell. Sit down with her and talk about your expectations, what the rules are, and what the consequences will be if these rules are broken. And, most importantly, you follow through each time. You are not your child's friend, you are your child's parent. Good luck...it is TOUGH!!!
2007-05-13 19:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by suziebach 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
confront her about her behavior - if it seems that suspicious to you you may need to concern yourself that the change in behavior could be due to experimenting with drugs, or a new group of friends - sit down and have a serious talk with her.
2007-05-13 19:45:50 · answer #5 · answered by absolut_nixter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PUT your FOOT down !!!!!! WHO is the PARENT here!!!!! She is a CHILD make her learn her place!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thats what the hell is wrong w/ america parents lettin kids run them make them learn they place as children cuz they place dam sure aint runnin shyt brwak out the belt if you have too!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-05-13 19:47:50 · answer #6 · answered by morelandapril 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bad parenting has its effects ...
2007-05-13 19:44:16 · answer #7 · answered by ~ShUdDhAtA UnLiMiTeD~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋