my ex wrote letter behind my back to my boss about "our sitiuation" she made it look like I don't want to work in the new place and it's unfair that they won't pay for kids tickets (I had to move because of my job) I don't know what to do I never said nothing like that and even better we was just talking with her about kids airfare at that we will buy tickets (it was decided in the cour that she has to pay half for it)
my boss is looking at me strange I don't know what to do? how can I make her stop?
2007-05-13 19:31:59 · 14 answers · asked by frankie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How good is your relationship with your boss? I would 1> tell my ex wife that your relationship between her and you and the children are personal, not to do it again, she jeopardizes your job, then that will jeopardize the childrens welfare, money etc and in the future dont vent to her or even talk to her about work, keep strictly about the children, she obvious is oblivious to the professional world 2> talk to your boss, aplogize tell him you like and enjoy your job and hope this has not affected his perception of you. That you will try and make sure your personal life does not interfere with work again and that she is now your ex-wife not your wife.
2007-05-13 19:39:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Firstly, you should ask your ex to stop and explain to her that you need the job to support the kids and you don't wish that your boss have any bad impressions of you. Secondly, you should approached your boss and tell him about your relationship with your ex had turned sour that the reason why she kept bothering you and your boss. If you don't approached your boss how do you know what he is thinking about you and you will never solve your problems.
2007-05-13 19:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by phoebe83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just sit him down and tell him you are very embarrassed by what your ex did behind your back. That nothing she stated was an issue on your part.
I would ask for a copy or the original and take it to your lawyer. He can send a letter on your behalf that will inform her if she does such a reckless action again she will answer for it. It may cost you for his time, but your point will be got. Good luck.
2007-05-13 21:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by treasuredwife69 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know about the letter, so therefore your job/boss knows and has already aprroached you with it. Explain to him that she is and "Ex" with the ex attitude, and that if it continues, you will file a VPO to protect yourself, and him from harrassment Inform her at the same time, that this is not going to help with the situation, nor the kids.
2007-05-13 20:02:35 · answer #4 · answered by R. W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with your boss. Ge to him/her and tell them the difficulty that you are having with your ex and apologize for her trying to drag them into the middle of it. Let them know that what she is saying is possibly to make you look bad and them to notify you if she does it again so you can get a restraining order. Then let your ex know that you plan on getting a restraining order if she does not stay out of your business, what she is doing is harassment and illegal. Best of luck!
2007-05-13 19:41:24 · answer #5 · answered by Chasity 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its really hard for any of us to put ourselves in our spouse's situatuon. You are only knowing what you know and sometimes that means you dont understand how hurt your wife is. Your wife was very angry with you.....she was hurt about something you did.. There are not a lot of people who will want revenge for no reason. There is a reason why she has done this and I can practically guarantee its becuase of something you have done to her. There are always 2, maybe 3 or 4 sides to every story,.,,,I think we are only hearing your side.
2007-05-13 19:45:01 · answer #6 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'd file harrassment charges on her.... If I were you, I'd explain the situation to your boss in your own words and in the mean time make it all legal with your ex... if u have to, get an attorney to write her a letter... she is F*cking with u hard and needs therapy....
2007-05-13 19:41:17 · answer #7 · answered by Girl Next Door 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just have a frank talk with your boss. Appologize on your exwifes behalf for her lack of good manners. And that you do not share her outlook on the situation.
2007-05-13 19:59:17 · answer #8 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about making her stop . Go to your boss explain that she is bitter and will hurt you anyway she can. If he understands all you have to tell him; it will not matter the next time she send her hate for you his way.
2007-05-13 19:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by gigigal906 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your boss and explain to him that your ex is just vindictive, and to please ignore her now and in the future.
As far as your ex goes...I guess next time you get a new job, don't tell her who your boss is!
2007-05-13 19:36:14 · answer #10 · answered by Meg M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋