We were together for 2 1/2 years. There were a couple trust issues, but I thought we had gotten past that. I gave him everything in the world, and I love him very much. He's the only person I want to ever be with. We were happy, then bam, he said we should just be friends. How can I go about accepting this. This is the most difficult thing I have been faced with in my life. I need some advice.
2007-05-13 19:14:55 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
just move on to the next guy. easier said then done. I know been there done that. He is telling you he doesn't want to be committed ever. It sounds like you were the only one that was happy. the trust issues tells me he already cheated thus no commitment was ever involved.
2007-05-13 19:25:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear you. I was once getting ready to propose to a girl when she hit me with the "I just want to be friends."
Your heart is broken, it will mend. First and foremost, a lover cannot be downgraded to "just friends." At least not right away. If he wants to breakup, then hold him to it and break up. Don't interact with him, take measures to break all ties. Otherwise you will be just torturing yourself. This will either:
A: Give you the space and time to define yourself without him and start forging a life without him.
or
B. Make him realize that he can't live without you.
WARNING! If B happens then make sure he jumps through a lot of hoops. He has made a decision to dump you. He has his reasons. Those reasons don't automatically disappear.
Bottom line it is a big world, you deserve to be with someone who loves you and wants to be with you. I know it doesn't feel like you will even love someone else again, but, speaking from experience, you will.
On a related note. Given that love and hate are opposites. Why is it people feel free to hate many people but love only one? If you can hate more than once you can love more that once. Don't place limits on love.
Good luck
2007-05-13 19:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by Airos 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just convince yourself tt he can only be your friend. I know it may be pretty hard. But just face the fact tt he only want to be your friend. Get yourself engaged with other stuffs like going out with your friends or family, making new friends and getting serious with your work. You can always make new friends and find a new guy in the near future. The current solution is to face the reality and fight against your fear and saddness. He's not the only guy on earth. Forget him so as to do yourself a big favour.
2007-05-13 19:23:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was shocked when I read your description because it fit my situation down to the letter. It's been a year since he told me, and I did get all mental on him with the tears and the questions, but time does heal all pain. You will get through it, one day at a time. Sometimes you'll slide back, other times you'll be great.
After a month or two of no contact, we did connect and he said he had been and always will be my friend. I realized I could live with that, and we've been fine since.
2007-05-13 19:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by Jess 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes what we view as Phony is definitely Phony yet sometimes they act that way by fact they're uncomfortable. I certainly have been unsuitable for that on various events by fact the persons might say issues making me uncomfortable. consequently, my reaction grow to be to bite my tongue and say something severe-high quality. additionally, incredibly some human beings think of i'm a snob merely by fact they do no longer attempt to get to comprehend me even once I placed myself obtainable. answer: What I say to somebody else a pair of individual i'll additionally say directly to the guy spoken approximately. i won't be able to be 2 confronted and have a clean judgment of right and incorrect. Morning sweetie?
2016-10-15 22:19:43 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely a shock. But remember a spouse is someone who has to truly want to be with you, too...you may be sick or disabled at some points, you want someone who will stick by you through thick or thin, who will support you financially if need be, share kid duty...it's never a one-way street, as much as you think you could just give give give
He did you a big favor, it will take time to see it that way though
2007-05-13 19:19:32 · answer #6 · answered by SQD 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
aww how sad...well,idk if im in love or not but there is this guy,he is a wanna b player...we had lots of good times but we never went out and i told him i loved him but all we r is friends...i know its heart breaking 4 u but just be friends cuz u can get 2 know each other way more!you will grow up more and get him 2 trust you and dont do anything stupid
2007-05-13 19:20:54 · answer #7 · answered by Andrea H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know how much it hurts...but he really did you a favor...if there were trust issues...they aren't going to improve...they will get worse in time...go on with your life & remember...there are some really decent men in the world who won't have trust issues....emotional abuse is one of the worst abuses there is. You can heal from physical abuse but the mental leave huge scares...so PLEASE move on with your life & remember better men will enter your life...the best of luck & your in my prayers
2007-05-13 20:07:29 · answer #8 · answered by Karyn B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be his friend trust me. It will end up making you feel worse. You should just move on with your life and not include him anymore. Besides its hard to be "just friends" with someone you still have feelings for. There is no such thing as that.
2007-05-13 19:20:27 · answer #9 · answered by xSilverStarx 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well dear. look u have no choice.
even if u wanna be wid him., his wish is required which i think he is not giving it.u just have to accept his decision. in the end its only urs and his choice.give him up and move on in life.
just forget it
i know its difficult 4 u but u have no choice
2007-05-13 19:45:25 · answer #10 · answered by Nandini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋