My husband is in iraq and believe it or not the idea of him jerking off to a nudie or porn rag irks me. He would never look at porn or anything like that here but I know its a fact that guys look at that crap. My husband is actually a decent guy who knows that it is, and that I strongly oppose and am disgusted with the woman who degrade themselves and continue the nasty idea that woman are just sexual objects. It would really hurt me if he looked at that smut while he is there and i know that his brother and cousin are sending him magazines and of course all the other guys over there have it too. So, my question for you is, would I be wrong to ask him what magazines he has got sent to him or he is looking at? Am I wrong as his wife not to want him to look at that nastiness while he is there when he wouldnt do it here either?
I love my man and want him to continue to honor me there as I do here.
NO, I am not Fat or ugly,maybe insecure but what woman is honestly not a bit insecure
2007-05-13 19:08:40 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well..he needs sex as much as u do ..and if ur faithful to him ..he should be faithful to u to ..being deployed to iraq is no reason to cheat or look at dirty magazines ..he is there to serve his country and that is what he should do ..but then life cant be played only on rules ..sometimes u have to be moderate about things around u ..i would say keep him attracted towards u ..send him emails with ur own pictures ..but only if he is comfortable looking at them ..when u talk to him on the phone. talk dirty with him(if need be) so that he wont feel like he is sex starved keep him engaged and he wotn look at dirty porn mags
2007-05-13 19:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by Mike R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As a wife of a husband that served our country, I am very disappointed that this was a question. To simply put it, HELL NO. First, your husband is fighting for every freedom you have as a citizen of the United States. He faces danger seen and unseen. You have to idea or sympathy what he's going through. Not only, is he under attack physically, but also mentally. My husband now has PTSD. I even think that you considering cheating is HEARTLESS! Apparently, your marriage vows didn't mean very much to you or did they? It's not about whether he finds out. It's about doing what's right. You are the only person that have to live with you. May God keep our soldiers!
2016-05-17 11:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jenny, your self respect is quite understandable and you are just telling us how and what you think about those personal magazine. But my question for you is this, have you seen that country where your husband is in right now?? I did and whether you believe it or not that place is a bit not settled. I know that thinking or knowing that your husband might look or read a magazine that can give him an idea to relieve himself is a no,no to you, but you must also think about him or even those men that being there not knowing if they will come home alive or not.
Dignity can be easily taking for granted, but if your husband is only reading the magazine is not that big of a deal. Right now give him something that can occupy his free time while his back in a country where you always have to look behind your shoulder. Your intent is quite good, but if you really love him and cares for his safety,don't control him, love him enough to understand if he wants to read "that" magazine. It's not like that he will look at the magazine and go out in town and look for a girl to relieve himself. Iraq is not a place to have a good times for our soldier, just think about it..........
2007-05-14 02:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by islandgirl06 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give the guy a break.
As long as he's not cheating on you, just leave it alone.
He's over there getting shot at. I think that should entitle him to have you consider him being in a "nag free zone", don't you?
Just be happy that he loves you, and wants to be home with you.
Forget the jealousy.
Remember, he has to be a warrior while he's over there, and that is a very different state of mind than when he's here.
You could actually be endangering him by trying to control him while he's over there.
Warriors have to dial into the animal instinct to stay alive. Sorry, it's just the way it is.
2007-05-13 19:34:46 · answer #4 · answered by dork 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
All though it is nasty to us it isn't nasty at all to men, in fact what
we consider to be disguising is a way of life to man .Most men try to keep that part of them away from us. If you were to find out what your husband really thought about and even the things he would like to do to you,he knows you would find that disgusting . That's why so many men have affairs and others go to prostitutes in order to get what they want.Never say you no your husband because you don't at less not everything.
because you don't.
2007-05-14 00:00:38 · answer #5 · answered by Teenie 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dont worry dear! If he's yours by heart, nothing can let u apart. Rather he'll be more close to you after thos gap of separation. And as far as dirty mags are concerned, he is a man, biologically and harmonically urgedto get attracted to these things.
2007-05-13 19:13:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been deployed, and whether you ask him to or not, he will still see them. the pics are all over most of the guys rooms. i dont think its fair. would you like it if he said you couldnt look at a book of pretty hairstyles or dresses? we like to look at nice things. thats human. my husband is deployed and i bought him a pocket pussy. he loves it. i used to care, and i asked about that on here. this guy answered me about how we all like to see nice things. women are soft and beautiful and that is amazing to men (who are rugged)
when a woman tells a man that he cant do something, then it becomes the forbidden fruit, and he wants it more
2007-05-14 15:43:25 · answer #7 · answered by *never give up* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
not fair at all...look where he is, and what he is doing??? you should get some "adult" photos taken of you, by a professional, and send them, maybe even make him a video or 2...bet he would love that
2007-05-14 01:29:29 · answer #8 · answered by poodle mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Damn, all the men here disappoint me. Do they not understand that it is hurtfull to a woman to have her man look at OTHER naked women? I think you, as his wife, are in your right to ask (if he agrees is another issue). All the guys here piss me off with their nastiness.
Best of luck to you.
2007-05-13 19:21:35 · answer #9 · answered by CindyRELLA 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well...you can send him naked (or near naked if you re uncomfortable) pictures of you and tell him to go to town...I'm sure that he would respect your privacy and keep them to himself...plus...what man doesn't want pictures of his wife...especially those kind.
2007-05-13 19:12:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋