my gil friend thinks that iam not supportive of her being prenet how can i show her i am being mature andsupportive of her being pregnet she feels like she is going thru it alone and says i only think about that day and not the future
2007-05-13 19:03:18 · 15 answers · asked by brian r 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
it would help if we knew your ages. See her daily if possible for back rubs, make name lists together, ask if there is some special food treat you can bring her. Tell she is beautiful--important!!
Is marriage out of the question? Baby needs a family.
2007-05-13 19:09:03 · answer #1 · answered by winkcat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now, she's feeling a little unsure of her emotion. Maybe even feeling less attractive because sh'es getting better and feels you might be acting differently than you were pre-pregnant. Just do something special like once every 2 weeks,,,,,so each time it's a nice surprise. And thank her and tell her how happy you are that she's giving you your child. Maybe even sit down and talk about how you don't know what sh'es going through, but you're willing to listen and whatever you can do to help, you're 100% on board. But say this during a really good mood.
That would work for me....good luck!
2007-05-13 19:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by parti18t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the best support: Call her tomorrow and tell her you are picking her up and taking her to the courthouse for a marriage license. Then while waiting for the ink to dry, spend a few bucks for a wedding band, and take her and the wedding band back to the Justice of the Peace and get a marriage certificate. Take your folks and hers along as witnesses so that everyone can see your formal support for not only your new wife, but for the new addition to your loving family. The whole thing will cost about $200! Do this before your child is born so your child will be born legitimately and be known as a child born of loving unselfish parents. That's real mature fatherly support.
PS: Don't take "no" for an answer.
2007-05-13 19:13:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Ok so my boyfriend is not even with whats going on with my pregnancy but that's normal with him until we see the ultrasound and he can feel the baby move. I would say just discuss things with her about whats going to happen between you guys and let her know how excited you are. I already have a 2 1/2 year old with my boyfriend so I'm used to it and I realize that until the ultrasound it's really just me thinking about whats going to happen but it was really frustrating the first time because he never did any of the nice things you hear about other guys doing.
2007-05-14 05:39:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First...I have to say...having a baby when your unwed and your man isn't committed is absolutely terrifying. That probably plays a role in her stress level...unless of course she doesn't want to get married. I don't want to judge you...you have your own lives but I got pregnant when I wasn't married and it was very scarey. My boyfriend and I married when I was 4 1/2 months preggo. It's been over 10 years now and we made it work. We are the exception and not the rule of course but...just trying to let you know what she MAY be thinking.
Will he love my baby?
Will he be there to raise his child?
Does he love me or is he staying with me because I'm pregnant.
We've already complicated things with having this baby...why wouldn't he want to make a go of it?
People are cruel...sometimes even family is cruel and will not support a girl who got preggo outside of wedlock. Happened to me! She has got to be terrified of abandonment right now.
I'm not saying "GET MARRIED"...but perhaps some affirmation from you that you are going to be there for the long haul. If you are totally against getting married...I would say...
Buy her a baby book.
Buy her a "What to expect when your expecting" book.
Take Lamaze class together.
Baby name book.
Open a little savings account for your child.
Buy baby clothes.
Rub her feet.
Tell her you are so proud of her that she is yours and that she is having YOUR baby.
Things that say you are in it for the long haul.
Do chores around house you wouldn't normally do.
Back massages are great!
Let her nap.
Good luck and God bless!
2007-05-13 19:18:56 · answer #5 · answered by sheepinarowboat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her explain to her that you do care and that you have her back through all of this .. show an interest help pick out names,clothes,furniture etc; go to her appointments with her attend to her when shes not feeling well most importantly : "JUST BE THERE" and accept the fact that shes pregnant and her outrageous hormones are fluctuating - shes an emotional basketcase and even if shes bitching at you constantly she really does want you there she'll come around just give her time.. OH and the 2nd trimester.. will be a lot easier on the both of you good luck!
2007-05-13 19:13:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you talk in the future? Or do you just stick to right now? Maybe she needs to see you are thinking of the three of you in the future because she needs the reassurance that you will be there in the future. Plan, dream with her. It will go a long way!
2007-05-13 19:08:46 · answer #7 · answered by Still Me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spend as much time with her as possible. Help her do things that she now finds hard to do. Talk to her about the future. Make plans together. That could show her that you are thinking about the future.
2007-05-13 19:11:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do something special for her..
be there every step of the way..
insist on going to the dr appointments..
discuss names..
tell her how excited you are..
cook her dinner..
buy her flowers..
buy a little piece of clothing (even just a bib)..
make sure she knows you love her..
buy her something shes had her eye of for ages..
tell her how beautiful she looks pregnant...
talk to eachother about the future..
buy her ice cream at midnight..
do anything you can for her..
just remember theres a lot of hormones going on with her at the moment.. so sometimes something small might set off a bad mood.. good luck!
(Or perhaps you could propose if thats something that you want to do.. dont do it just because shes pregnant.. do it for love.. do it because you want to be with her forever..)
2007-05-13 19:12:47 · answer #9 · answered by *edb* 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Understand that alot of things happen when your pregnant. Your extremely tired and emotional. Help her with anything you possibly can. Let her know you love her and don't get angry when she gets crabby. She really can't help it. Reassure her everything will be allright and that she will be a great mother.
2007-05-13 19:23:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋