How can I help my 16yr old deal with someone talking trash and spreading lies about her at school?

Question

My daughter is dealing with a foul-mouthed, trash-talking popular kid who is spreading rumors about her. He never says anything to her face, just to everyone around her. She is losing sleep and constantly crying....what can I do?? No pep talk is working..

Answer 1

Best thing your daughter can do is a "boycott". Any time anyone mentions him or his rumours, she calmly says something to this effect "I would rather we not talk about *his name goes here* and what he's saying. It's not worth our time."

That's what the college kids do. Good luck!

Answer 2

I would say that if I were in your situation I would march into the principal's office and have a sit down with them, let them know what is going on and that this will be the only time you will be in there discussing this issue, if it continues to occur you'll assume that they are not doing their job properly by making every individual in that school safe, and you will go directly to the superintendant of the school system!!

Also, I would demand to know what is going to be the reprimand for this young man who thinks he has the right to be ripping on your daughters emotional strings like that!

If that doesn't work out through the superintendant than go directly to a media source in your hometown, like here where we live we have a news channel that does "five on your side" and if the problem does not get fixed go to the media source and give them the story to publish or to broadcast on the news about your daughter's school distict elected persons are not doing their job to make your daughter feel safe in her learning environment.

I do admit that the "super" and the idea of media are a bit outlandish at this point but just in case of a possible escalation.

Hope this helps!! And good luck!

Answer 3

first of all i suggest finding out the name of the kid giving your daughter a hard time then talk to his parents and make it very clear this is unacceptable and it will not be tolerated any further or there will be harrassment charges placed and they need to take care of it before the situation elevates any further make sure he is in the room at the time so he understands the situation fully if that doesn't work file the report and keep reassurring your daughter this is not her fault and not her problem shes not done anything wrong and hes just a pathetic little punk talking trash to try and get a rise out of her for some amusement in his sad little world.good luck with everything.

Answer 4

well there are many things you can do a few are if she has a couple really close friends then she could try to ignore the rumors and they will pass with time i should know because i have had a whole school convinced i had aids and i didnt and i just kept telling myself that i didnt have aids and that i didnt need to listen to them and it passed after me and my friends finally took initiative and whenever we herd the rumor we would stop it in its tracks and confirm it was false and i stopped. i know this probably wont help but the boy that is doing this could like your daughter or even feel threatend by her so he spreads rumors to make himself feel as if he is keeping her in check and also that she will be unable to retaliate because she is so engulfed in embarassment


p.s. the very best thing you can do to fight this is to do nothing at all no retaliation, no name calling, and especially dont show any negative emotions when you hear a rumor instead smile (or at least dont let them know your angry or sad) and just shrug it off saying that its not true. If none of this works then sak the school counselor for help and mom let her go alone if she wants to

Answer 5

the priority is, the more beneficial you positioned regulations on their relationship the more beneficial they're going to attempt to be at the same time. element of the priority is the organic teenage instinct to rebellion adversarial to regulations. Take it from a 15 year- previous. the female obviously hasn't been presented up ideal and that is oftentimes the mother and father' fault. the astounding you may do to assist him understand is probably prepare him the comments she revealed about you and ask him if it truly is fairly this kind of female he needs too be relationship. basically attempt fairly chatting with him. As for the insurrection, tell him he can proceed seeing her, yet with situations together with putting a chaperon app on his telephone so he can not lie anymore. also attempt placing a curfew for him. That way he will see you're making an attempt to satisfy contained in the middle. wish this helps!

Answer 6

This could turn into something more serious...
When I was a Junior in High School, there were two guys in my class who kept talking trash about me, calling me a whore (which I'm not), calling me everything but....pretty.
At first I was trying to make them stop but they wouldn't so I grew a pair of what I needed to grow...went to the discipline office (which I'm pretty sure your daughter's school has too) and told them about it. Those two kids ended up getting spelled for sexual harassment. I changed high schools after that and I'm glad I did...but it wasn't a good experience at all.
Sometimes you just gotta be harsh and do things for yourself and if that means that she has to do what I did...then oh well...that's life, I'm sure he'll learn after that.
Don't let her be so depressed about it, after all...it's high school and nowadays high school is full of drama and stupid stuff like this. Talk to her, tell her to be strong, do what I told you to do, and after he gets punished the way he has to be punished, everything will be ok.
Good luck to you and your daughter! ♥

Answer 7

See if she has a bigger friend that will smack him around. Someone like that really isnt the type of person you want talk to and make understand that they are bing mean.

Can she get him alone and knock him into a looker.?

Answer 8

That sucks. I had to go through something like that. To truly make the junk stop, he should march right up to him and insult him to his face, make him feel bad around all his friends. Trust me, this is the way to make her feel better and him to shut up!! Also listen to some good songs to feel better :)

Answer 9

Encourage her not to hang around those type of people.
Time to find some new aquaintences.." ya know "

Answer 10

move her schools...
recomended a private school, but some people cannot afford.
if there are none other schools in the area, consult the school.