I have had a pretty good relationship with my husband's friend. We all hang out together, go fishing, he stays the night..etc. He is usually an okay guy. For some reason, he goes through these stages where he talks bad about me. The last thing he started was that I was in a relationship with my friend Angie. I've known him since highschool. He also knows that my hubby won't hang out with their other friend because the guy is disrespectful to me. Am I missing something? I thought we were all friends. I think maybe he gets annoyed that his best buddy has a wife and kids and can't always go and do stuff at the drop of a hat. But we've been married for 8 years! I'd like for him to just stop speaking about any aspect of our lives to other people. If he could do that, it'd be cool. I don't want my husband to not have his fishing buddy anymore because the guy is too dim witted to know when to shut up! So what do I do?
2007-05-13 18:45:28 · 7 answers · asked by MomOfThreeBoys 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In response to Vegas Mike's stupid comment...
First, I don't send hate mail, but I will respond to the hateful message you left me. Wow, your mom must be a cartoon if my avatar looks like her. You reading a question doesnt mean you know what I look, act or sound like. And by the way, I haven't told my husband who he can hang out with. His friend was immature and disrespectful to his wife, so he doesn't want them around. Thats because he's a real man, and knows that his wife and kids come first. And you say I'm a nag? Far from it. It was my husbands decision to tell the guy to go away. I'd like for the guy to apologize and itd be fine. Apparently you have no respect for anyone else's feelings other than your own. Especially a woman. Any one would see that its not right for either spouse to have a friend that is a complete as.s to the other. How funny...you think you know me all from a question on Yahoo Answers.
2007-05-14 08:03:58 · update #1
well..first of all i think that he is jealous of u probably bcoz he is upset that u havent responded to his advances towards u..it seems to me ...i would say u need to talk to your hubby first ..tell him about the situation about how u feel about him making fun of u or insulting u or whatever..and then fix a meeting with that "friend" of urs along with your husband (it would be great if u include his wife/girlfriend if he has one that would increase the impact of the meeting on his mind) and talk to him openly that u do not like whatever he says about u and ur family to other people..That should help..but if he still doesnt shut his mouth then tell her hubby that u dont want him in your house again and stop talking to him totally
2007-05-13 19:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by Mike R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you spoken to the *friend*? You could just ask him what the problem is.
And is he a threat to your marriage? Could he put thoughts into your husbands mind?
Try to talk to him and if you know that he is no threat, it's best to leave the best friend alone, even though I can't possibly comprehend how he could be your hubbys best friend when he speaks about you like that.
However, if you get between a man and his best friend ... what would the reaction be?
May be unfair, but be careful here.
2007-05-13 18:52:56 · answer #2 · answered by NoSurrender 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just tell him:
Everybody's talkin' all this stuff about me, why can't they just let me live?
Don't need no permission, make my own decision, that's my perogative!
It's my perogative!
Seriously, though, just take this douche aside and tell him that if he has any personal problem with you then he should address it with you and leave others out of it. This is how adults act and it sounds like he needs to be reminded of that.
2007-05-13 18:51:13 · answer #3 · answered by p37ry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 40 and u sound like my mother and your picture looks like her too. And now u r acting like his mother telling him who he can hang out with. You sound, look and act like a total nag. You keep this up you are going to be a single mom --real soon.
Ill be looking forward to your hate e-mail. And I am not your husband. Your crap wont last one minute w/me.
2007-05-14 00:31:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Hummmm..tell him to get OVER his crush on YOU..then all else will work out...if not, tell him you will tell his wife and kids he has the HOTS for you.,.
2007-05-13 18:56:48 · answer #5 · answered by gr_and_funk_69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a hidden crush on you.
2007-05-13 18:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by firetdriver_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell him what you just told us and speak to your husband about it.
2007-05-13 19:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋