the man of my dreams (literally) is now very much in love with me... every time i wake up, i feel it is only a dream ive been living... its been almost 3 years and were even more in love than before... he wants to get married... BUT im only 21... and sometimes i see my friends going out and having fun with TONS of guys and i feel like im missing out...
what would you do? would you give up your guy to have a little bit more hot single party time or see it an an investment.. and stay with THE guy...
2007-05-13 18:37:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh first seeing the question I said no, but after thinking about my own life and how I was married young to my highschool sweetheart at 22 I say BE FREE. Even if you do lose him now, there is the rest of your life to find love again. If it can't be with him,then with the man of your dreams that you never knew existed. If it doesn't feel right, don't push it!
2007-05-13 18:41:50 · answer #1 · answered by Getsbetterwithtime 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do this guy a favor and cut him loose. If you have to ask this question then you have obviously been thinking about a lot. Yeah, you "love" him so much that playing around is almost as important as he is. How can you look at him with a straight face and tell him that you love him and how much he means to you. He deserves someone who will not have a straying personality. If you read what you wrote, you will see that you want TONS of guys. I can't see you taking any relation to the limit. The lucky guys are going to be the ones that meet you in the clubs because they will probably be getting a chance of having you because they will have found out that you are a sure thing. You will be the hot single party time. "Come on in she's a hot single party time.
2007-05-13 18:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by orcarius 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wtf is a party going to do for you.I am not saying you should stay or not,I know how you feel,but it is an investment if you stay with him.But if you just can't bear not going out or whatever you should get out,because you might end up resenting him later for something you thought you missed.You are still young.I am 23 and I just got engaged,my bf is wonderful he is 24,before him I went out and did my thing at the clubs or whatever and now I see my girl still doing all that(she will be 26 this month)..Sometimes I think about how thats cool she can come in and go when she wants.But who wants to be pushin 30 still shaking they *** in the club?What man wants that?I have decided that when I was in the clubs it was because I really didn't have a god reason not to be there...u understand? .The grass is not always greener on the other side boo! The only thing open at 2 in the morning is legs.You are really not missing nothing but loud music and guys trying to sleep with you.Keep your man...if your ready to grow up!It would be different if you would not have already been in this relationship for awile cause I do understand that you feel like you could be missin out...but girl, Iam tellin you chill! the club scene don't offer no benefits...not one.
2007-05-13 18:59:57 · answer #3 · answered by freejluvlildee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in the same boat! OMG, LOL! My boyfriend and I have been together for over 4 years and we are both 22 years old. My answer is no...I am not going to leave him just to mess around and have a little more single time because I feel lucky to have met the man I want to spend the rest of my life with at such a young age and I refuse to risk losing him for a little clubbing and drinking and flirting and being single. If I want to go clubbing and dance and drink that bad, I can do it with the love of my life and be faithful to him. He is more important to me than ANY club or single hot guy or girls night out...I love him and I'm not going anywhere.
2007-05-13 18:45:15 · answer #4 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it is going to be hard but you NEED to leave him. Not only for you and your daughter's physical safety but also your psychological well being. I know you want your daughter to know her real father, but with him being drunk, strung out, and lying all the time "father" would only end up being a loose term applied to the man who is unfortunately related to her. It sounds to me like you have a good family for support, and a strong faith in God. Which is amazing and you are fortunate because you will need both to get back on your feet. But I believe that you will find your inner joy and happiness again when you rid yourself of this current man, and one day when you are whole again, you will find a man who is everything you desire and your current daughter needs. Just have faith, as hard as it is right now. You are an incredible person and you deserve the best. You are worth so much more than this and don't deserve what this man has put you through. I will keep you in my prayers, and I am not just saying this, I really will. Smile :)
2016-04-01 10:13:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am 23 and i got married when i was 20 and i had the exact same thought as you do, i saw all my friends party it up and still do see that but let me tell you that you would be missing out. i was scared too and the first year of marriage is really hard so you'll have that thought again.... but i am so glad that i got over that and stuck with him because i am the happiest woman alive, women are jealous of me because i have the best husband ever. He is sooo perfect ( well not "perfect" but really close*) I havnt seen other women as happy in marriage as i am. When you find the most beautifull love, you hold on as tight as you can because the single life is only a phase and you want to come home to someone who loves you every night, trust me. Dont let him go.
3rd year anniversary coming up and we just had our baby girl in march and couldnt be happier!!
2007-05-13 19:18:06 · answer #6 · answered by renai0718 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with the guy, don't risk losing the man of your dreams. Not everyone is lucky enough to find him--you're one of the lucky ones. Sure, there might be a tone of guys out there, but that's not to say that they are good quality guys, or that they are better than your dream man.
2007-05-17 15:23:49 · answer #7 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you talking about "dating" other guys or just hanging out with friends. If it's a question about other guys, then NO absolutely I would not.
If you're talking about going out with friends, then i don't see that as giving up my guy. Everyone should be allowed to go out and have some innocent time with friends.
But again NO NO NO to other guys. You might just spend a lot of years regretting it when/if you've lost your love. Bacause it was a question about riskin the man of your dreams, right?
2007-05-13 18:43:14 · answer #8 · answered by NoSurrender 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Having doubts about being in a relationship verses hanging out with the girls?
Well, it depends on your values in this. If having the man of your dreams is what you dreamed of, why lose him to partying with other guys? Seems like you really aren't ready for a serious relationship with this man.
2007-05-13 18:43:30 · answer #9 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kiddo, I think you better stay with this guy.
If he's all that you say he is.
There's nothing saying you have to get married like NOW.
Let him know you love him, and you want to get married, but, you'd also like to wait maybe a yr or 2.
I gotta tell you the single life isn't what it's all cracked up to be, and I'd bet your GF's are jealous!!
2007-05-13 18:44:26 · answer #10 · answered by iwish40 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋