seriously, i don't want people in and out of my childrens lives, every body that my parents (there divorced) or my husbands parents (there divorced ) take on a few dates shouldn't meet my kids, so how long should they be together before they meet my children?
2007-05-13 18:09:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
i don't want to sound mean but my daughter gets attached to people easily so i don't think its fair to her.
2007-05-13 18:09:58 · update #1
You have every right to protect your children. Give it at least three to six months. This way you can get to know the person well enough to see if they will be around for a reasonable amount of time, or if they are trust worthy. Plus your kids won't get hurt. Who says that our parents always make the right choices in life, and love. For no one is perfect, and you just never know. It's not that you distrust your parents, but your children are a valuable possession and you must protect them.
2007-05-13 18:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My Goodness. That all depends on so many factors and so many variables. Geez! I don't understand why the two can't just introduce each other as nothing more than friends only. Card playing buddies or church friends and such. I don't see how them being grandparents being "just friends" would be any different than say your sibling dating someone and telling your children they were "just friends", in case that relationship also didn't work out. I mean if your children get really close and friendly quickly and you are afraid they may get hurt if the couple should break up in the future, I don't understand how a sibling and their date would differ from a grandparent and their date if they introduced them as a friend, either way. If you still don't agree to this logic, then I would guess maybe 8 months, possibly. That is a hard call, because, even then, after 8 months or even a year of courtship, the couple may still end up splitting up, there are no guarantees. Heck, even marriage, unfortunately, these days, is no guarantee. I can understand your concern for your children on this point, though. I'm wondering how old they are. Good Luck with this matter.
2007-05-14 01:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that grandma and grandpa shouldnt meet the grandkids till they have made a commitment to each other. I mean that they should have dated at least for six months and met with the children and made that impression that this is for keeps. I also feel that we as parents should be comfortable with our parents partners before they met our children. This would mean getting to know the significant other, and feel comfortable with them too. You never know who you think is great when they are not nice at all.
2007-05-14 01:16:27 · answer #3 · answered by suzane_callalily67 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's all a part of life. If they want to meet the grandkids, let them. Did it ever occur to you that the grandkids are their pride and joy, and they want the world to see them. People enter and exit our lives on a daily basis, so you can't use that for an excuse.
2007-05-14 01:15:40 · answer #4 · answered by johN p. aka-Hey you. 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's entirely up to the individual.
Each situation is different.
They can be introduced as just only a good friend to the grandkids.
2007-05-14 01:12:33 · answer #5 · answered by FL Girl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The rule is 6 months !
2007-05-14 01:11:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
6 months or so. n
2007-05-14 01:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by Nikki 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would say about 6 months..long enough to be serious. and long enough so they can know alot about them.
2007-05-14 01:11:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋