a gift or even a "happy mothers day" saying... from their boyfriend?? he didnt even say happy mothers day to me>and he didnt even get me at least a card!!! i culd really care less bout if he got me a gift but come on i am a mother of our 20mnth old lil gurl we live together.. and he cant even agnolige tha day for me!! :( i am very dissapointed..what exactly does this mean other than disrespectfull??
2007-05-13 17:25:49 · 4 answers · asked by manda 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Valentine's Day
Aw, I'm sorry. I wonder if he forgot? Maybe he was just thinking about his own mom, which isn't really an excuse, I know...
2007-05-13 17:30:17 · answer #1 · answered by lildevilgurl152004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too would be disappointed. I don't know what it means. When I first got married (we were both young) my husband did not celebrate occasions either. I thought he was hateful and mean (and disrespectful). I came to find out that his family did not make a big deal out of anything and so that is where he learned to behave that way. Over the years he got much better.
To answer your question it doesn't have to mean anything but it can. tell him how you feel and see what he says. He may just consider that the child gets something for the mother and since your baby is not old enough to care, he just skipped it. If that is the case, he may be thoughtless but not disrespectful.
2007-05-14 00:34:20 · answer #2 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be asking him what it means!
Did you let him know in advance that the day is important to you?
Does he realize that you feel he's disrespected you?
Men are not mind-readers...as simple as it sounds, he may have grown up in a household that didn't acknowledge such things...so he wouldn't know it was important to you, unless you told him so.
If he's not a total jackass on every other day, then chances are he meant no disrespect.
Here is a big tip that will save you a lot of time, confusion and heartache in the future....
If a man says he loves you....ask him what that means...then, if he, like most men, doesn't know what to say....You say..."Okay, in order for me to feel loved and respected I need.....this, this and this to happen and this, this and this can never happen....(you fill in the blanks)....What do you need in order to feel love and respected? " It might take him some time to answer..Then you both know what your terms are, what the deal breakers are...like Betty Wright sang "If you can hang, baby hang...no pain, no gain".
2007-05-14 00:45:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry!
My mother had this experience with my step-father a long time ago. Granted they do not have children together, but she is a mother and did take care of his children a lot. She made it very clear that this is unacceptable and he never did it again.
2007-05-14 00:31:57 · answer #4 · answered by terpinturtle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋