Getting baby/toddler to sleep in her own bed?

Question

My daughter has been sleeping in my bed almost the whole 11months since she has been born. She is strarting to get very clingy and realises when I'm not there with her and wakes up. It is starting to affect my fiancee's and her quality of sleep.
Time to get her out- have tried a few things but she is very determined to stay. What are some techniques and how long do i trial it if its not working before trying something else.

Answer 1

Try this- Bring a chair into her bedroom. Sit it next to her crib. When you put her down in her crib for bedtime, just sit in the chair. Don't talk to her and don't pick her up. Just sit there until she falls asleep. If she wakes up in the middle of the night, just go back in and comfort her, sit down in the chair until she falls asleep. Again, don't say anything and don't pick her up(unless it is necessary). Sit in there with her until she falls back to sleep. Do this every night. Each night, move the chair farther towards the door until eventually you are out of the room. I know this is a long process and you may lose a lot of sleep but it does work. And after she gets used to it, you and your fiancee will get better sleep too.

Answer 2

She's only 11months old. She won't understand what you are "explaining".

You have two ways. You can go the tough on mum way. Which means putting her in her crib/bed and doing the Cry it out method. Can be very effective, but you need to follow it to the tee and be strong. It can take 1-2 weeks for this method.

Or you can be the soft mum and gradually move her out. Is there room for a crib in your room?

Or you can start doing what others have said, where you let her nap in a different room during the day and go from there.

Also, does she have a comfort item, like a blankie or teddy? Sometimes cuddling something will help.

I wouldn't put her into a completely quiet room either. Your room has the sounds of you and your partner breathing and moving. Perhaps get a CD player and put a cd designed for babies' sleep to help.

Unfortunately there isn't going to be an easy easy easy way of doing it and its going to take a little while and probably a few tears on both yours and your daughters behalf :(

Good luck

Answer 3

I am sure you have probably already tried this, but how about just putting her in her crib and letting her cry. It can be very hard because you are her mother and don't want to hear her like that, but the last thing you want to do is put her in her crib for a couple minutes and then pick her up. That just shows that crying brings mommy back....The more you put her back in your bed to stop the crying, the longer the crying will continue when you try the next time.

You definitely have to break this! It is not healthy for your marriage or your daughter. Just remember, she is a baby... when she is five she will not even know she ever slept in your bed or that for the first few nights away from you she cried herself to sleep. It will be hard, but I don't know of any other way beside persistence.

Answer 4

I had kind of the same problem.. I wasnt there full-time with my son for the first year, but when he came back, I had the problem where he wouldnt sleep unless it was on me, or I was in the room. After a few days I realized that my son needs to learn how to put himself to sleep. So I would do the bedtime routine, a bath then I lotion his body, then Ill cuddle with him, read him a book, kiss him goodnight, put him in his crib and tell him Ill see him in the morning. I would turn on the night light and close the door.. and would he ever scream!!! The first time I did it, after 5 mintues I couldnt take it anymore, I felt so guilty so I ran in there and picked him up.. he won this time, I never let it happen again. The next night I let him cry, and he cried himself to sleep. After a few days of doing this, and him waking up and seeing my face every morning, he realized that I was always going to be there when he wakes up and then he would just drink his bottle, look at a book, play with his stuffed animals, or talk to himself until he goes to sleep.
Sorry this was so long, but I think I needed to tell you the whole story to understand.. Hope it helps!
Good luck

Answer 5

Put her in her own bed when she is drowsy, and put her bed right next to your side of the bed, and lay down on your bed and talk to her softly with the lights down low. Then after a couple days move her bed six inches to a foot away from your bed, and continue laying on your bed talking to her. Keep moving her bed away from yours slowly, so she can adjust easily. If she has a rough night move her bed a little closer, but don't pull her into the bed with you, because that will be a huge backwards step. I know it is hard, I've been there before, not all that long ago.

Answer 6

i might purchase your self a while by way of reducing the crib mattress to the backside achieveable, till you have already did that and your toddler is mountain climbing out. This technique would nicely be annoying on a toddler and each toddler is diverse. yet you're able to understand that once you're making that fluctuate your toddler won't choose to stay in his mattress now that they've get right of entry to of having out, and you're able to stay solid. this suggests even in the journey that your toddler sneaks on your mattress 10 circumstances in a single night, you're able to arise 10 circumstances and positioned him back to mattress. in the long-term you would be happy you probably did this. i understand of a pair that keeps to be sharing their mattress with their 4 365 days previous! For naptime, try laying your toddler on a settee-not your mattress (pillows on the floor in case they roll) and demonstrate screen how lots tossing and turning he does. If he can sleep devoid of doing a sort of rolling then he could be waiting.

Answer 7

she needs to be sleeping in her own baby bed in her own room.for privacy for both of you.its better to never start this if you have more kids dont do this! get her a nightlight for her room make sure she is put to bed after shes been fed and changed and her room is clean and comforatable and safe and near your room.put her to bed, either rock her to sleep before you put her in bed or read a story first.set a regular bedtime and stick with it.after the rocking or story put her in bed, cover her with a blanket, give her a kiss, tell her its time to go to sleep now,i love you.turn off the light leave on the nightlight shut her door and leave.go to your room or the living room.dont overreact if she cries if you are worried she may cry too long get a baby monitor and listen to make sure she is ok. it may take a couple of weeks for her to adjust but you must stick with it to break her of this habit.you can give her a small soft dolly to sleep with and that may help.good luck.

Answer 8

what worked with my daughter was put her in her crib and stand outside it, for a few nights, then step to just in finger tip reach, then move to the middle of the room, then stand at the door for a few minutes, and finally you should be able to lay her down and walk out.

With my son we made no progress after 2 weeks so we just let him cry it out. Took him 3 nights to figure out how to soothe himself to sleep.

Answer 9

If it makes you feel any better, I think a lot of people have this problem. There was an article in the New York Times about this about a month ago. You might want to go to www.nytimes.com and search the archives for it.

Answer 10

Good luck with that one... you should've never let her sleep with you to begin with. You could opt for a king size bed so you all have more room. That'll probably be your best bet. My mom let me sleep in the same bed when I was a baby, and I remember he trying to get me to sleep in my bed when I was a toddler, but I would literally scream for hours because I wanted nothing to do with my bed. My dad would get mad because he needed sleep for work (I'd scream up until midnight some times) so I'd go back to bed with them. It wasn't until I started school I started sleeping in my own bed (I was a big girl then) but I would sleepwalk to their room and get in bed with them almost every night up until I was almost a teenager. Good luck to you! You should have fun with this one! :-)