Would a mother ever deceive her own child to satisfy others interests?

Question

talk negative about the child to others, humilate the child,etc just to satisfy other individuals?

Answer 1

A mother can deceive herself that she is actually satisfying her child's interests.

Answer 2

YES... some do, although their intentions might be considered to be harmless. I'm acquainted with a few strange mothers, who somehow think that by putting down the child in front of an outsider, they can save the child from the 'Evil Eye'. I'm serious. There are people who will do the most ridiculous things to avoid this thing. They just won't understand the negative impact this will have on their kid. How could you expect an 8-year old to understand the 'Evil Eye'?

Apart from these ignorant but genuine mothers, I know one mother who did all those things you said, and more... That child is now a grown up, but if I had been there when this child was being abused by its mother, I would have called the police.

Answer 3

Its extemely wrong to put anyone down let alone a child of any age if this starts off early life it will and possibly scar the child for life.

I am not quite clear on the deceiving a child to satisfy others interests unless. To make the parent feel better its still wrong. But its probably a pattern that was past to them when they were young . if you can possibly talk to the individual doing this maybe explain what its doing them and their child this pattern of hurt can be STOPPED.

please seek help. You can ask for help from your church or professionals In your local or national beats.

Answer 4

Happens all the time-it is a fact. (recorded often throughout time)

Selfishness rarely goes away. It just disguises itself. Some don't realize it --they do love their children. They just don't put what their children really need first (might act like it at times and fool themselves example--I give him plenty of my time and make sure he is enjoying everything--if that were enough we wouldn't have the problems we have today. Lack of true knowledge what is really needed for children and an incline toward selfishness cause this deceiving as you put it. . Sad too--they usually pass these bad traits down in one way or another.

Answer 5

To avoid being called misogynist again, I'll quote a female author/philospher Celia Green.

"Women are the last people to be trusted with children. Those who have repressed their own aspirations will scarcely be tolerant of the aspirations of others."

While there are exceptions to the rule, women as mothers tend to be primal in nature. Women are more intimidated by the opinions of others, and they'll even sacrifice the well being of their own children to appease a collective ideal.

Answer 6

Would they? Sure, I bet there are mothers that would.

Should they? No. Not on purpose. Some moms don't realize what they're doing has such a large impact on their child though. They may not be doing it to be evil. They may just be naive.

Answer 7

My mum does it to me all the time. And without going into details - it has caused quite an estrangement between her and I to ever having a decent relationship to date.

In fact the garden of flowers I had growing rather beautifully around my yard - my mum deliberately went through them and ripped them out, stomped on them, or broke branches on the plants to try to kill them. And my mum knows full well what she is doing. Does it upset me - yes. Has she broken my spirit - No

Answer 8

Yes. A friend of mine found out his mom was doing something very illegal and wrong. He asked about it, and she made up lame explanations and said he was evil for saying such horrible things about her. They are now estranged. The illegal things she was involved in came about from her engagement to a convicted felon, and she clearly values her relationship with him more than that with her own son.

Answer 9

Why this relationship- mother/child - has to be always unconditional, self-less and one way. Isn't she a Human,individual ?

Deception is a very heavy term, go soft on your vocab.. - either you are a mother yourself or born to a mother . you cannot escape that and got to respect .

Answer 10

Yes, though only a very few. I'm thinking of one superficial mom who thinks her need for excitement justifies the lies she tells just to get a reaction from people. She really believes what she says does not and will not ever affect her children. It wouldn't be surprising to hear her add, "and if it does, that's just too bad."