I'm interested in anal sex...?

Question

I've never done it before, but my fiance of three years wants to try it! I don't know what to expect....Anyone who's tried it, can you give me your personal experiences or regrets?- What should I do and how do I do it?

Answer 1

I've tried it, and I've liked it. But I haven't done it in a year. Here are some tips i found on the internet.

Tip #1: Play Safe

There are some serious safety issues regarding anal sex that you need to be aware of at all times. First and foremost, whatever touches the anus shouldn't be touching anything else. Never never never take the penis out of the anus and put it into the vagina. That can lead to serious infections and other complications. After any kind of anal play, you should immediately change condoms and wash the relevant body parts thoroughly.

Of course, STDs are also a major concern with anal sex. This isn't just limited to AIDS; herpes, genital warts, syphilis, gonorrhea, etc. can all be transmitted through anal sex. You shouldn't be having anal sex without a condom; it's not worth the risk to either partner.

Tip #2: Lube, lube, lube

One of the most important thing to remember when thinking about anal sex is that, unlike the vagina, the anus isn't self-lubricating: you gotta bring your own grease. And, the more lube you use, the better. It will make the initial penetration much more easy and less painful for the woman and make the whole experience, for both of you, much more pleasant. The most common suggestion we get from our readers is to use LOTS of lube; we just can't emphasize this point enough.

All kinds of lube are used for anal sex, from spit to Vaseline to high-tech silicone-based lubes. We'd strongly recommend spending a little money to get a high quality water-based lubricant; remember, an oil-based lubricant like Vaseline will degrade the latex in a condom, destroying its usefulness. We'd recommend products like AstroGlide or KY Jelly, available in any drug store. Note, though a condom may be "lubricated", they typically don't offer as much lube as we'd recommend for anal sex.

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There are some specialty lubes designed for anal sex that include an anesthetic to numb the woman's sensation and make anal sex less painful. We'd advise against these products. The simple fact is, pain is a way of your body telling you that something's wrong. If you're in pain during anal sex, you need to focus on solving the root problems, not anesthetizing yourself so it's easier to endure.

Tip #3: Start Small

Simply put, a penis is an awful big to be the first thing you stick up someone's butt . Better to start with something smaller and work your way up. Fingers are an excellent beginning point. Use one finger, then two, to initiate your partner into the mysteries of anal penetration. Try it while performing oral sex for an extra thrill. Be sure your fingernails are trimmed, not to forget the lube, and you might even want to wear latex gloves.

As your partner gets used to your fingers, you might graduate to a ********* or a small dildo. Dildos are available in all shapes and sizes. Go shopping together to get one she thinks she can handle. Remember, though, don't put the dildo into the vagina after putting it into the anus. The safest way is to put a condom on the dildo before using it, and to wash it thoroughly immediately after.

Tip #4: Turnabout is Fair Play

Whether you're trying to convince someone to have anal sex or trying to figure out how to do it in a gentle, pain free manner, there's no better preparation that exploring anal play with yourself.

A partner is much more likely to consent to anal sex if she's seen that you're open to being on the receiving end as well. Encourage her to use her fingers inside of you, or even purchase a ********* or small dildo and let her use that. Once she's seen you're willing to do it, it'll be hard for her to resist exploring it as well.

Of course, anal play on yourself is a great way to learn how anal sex feels and to learn how to make it more comfortable for your partner. You might also be surprised just how much you like it...

Tip #5: Clear the Way

Before having anal sex, the woman should have a good, complete bowel movement. If she doesn't, the man may find himself encountering far more fecal matter than he might have liked (i.e. packing the fudge). Now, for some people doing this on-command might not be the easiest thing, and straining to defecate is not healthy. A high fiber diet may help things along and is good for your health in any case.

Of course, if you really want to clean things out in a hurry, you can purchase an enema from any drug store. There's some controversy about this; some people feel having an enema first can actually increase the irritation during anal sex. If you're going to go the enema route, we'd recommend doing it several hours before you plan to have anal sex, rather than right before the act.

Answer 2

There is a lot of advise about this but the truth is that whether or not you will enjoy anal sex depends mostly on how the idea sounds to you. Does the idea excite you? Do you know that it is a bit naughty, and does that turn you on? Do you get off on totally submitting to you partner? If you say yes to most of these questions there there is a good chance that you will enjoy anal play. It is not going to feel like vaginal penetration, it is just going to be an intense sensation... most women either call this intensity "pain" or they enjoy the stimulation. Here are some good things to remember. You should control when, where, and how this happens. Before you do anything with your man you should find a smallish dildo, get some lube, and try it on yourself first... if you enjoy this then start out lightly and work your way up to letting him use his penis back there. Just take it slow and make sure that you are in willing. Good Luck.

Answer 3

My fiance and I were doing it doggy style one time and he slipped! It HURT LIKE HELL!!!! But I have heard that If you use lots of Astroglide (similar to KY Jelly, but used especially for anal sex) It doesn't hurt as bad. I just couldn't ever do it after that experience with the slip. You also have to be really relaxed I have heard. But only do this if this is what you want or are curious, don't just do it because he wants to.

Answer 4

Lube helps a lot.(or use "natural" lube) Also the smaller he is the better. Honestly if he is larger,naturally it is going to hurt. At first it feels awkward and a little painful. But once you get used to "the feeling" it can feel nice and pleasurable,which never,in a million years would I think I would say the word pleasurable. It's not all THAT exciting for girls,although some girls like it. I mostly do it to please my boyfriend and it feels good...just not "good enough" for a happy ending for me...if you know what I mean. Have him GO SLOW and use lube it there is not enough "natural" lube. Otherwise it WILL hurt!

Answer 5

well you should first of all only do what is comfortable to you. if you dont want it then he needs to respect your decision. there is alot more to intamicy than just that. i know first hand. if i was able to respect my wife untill she was ready then there is no excuse for anyone else. if you are going to do that then you have to be relaxed. i remember when we first started doing it, my wife would squeeze her but hole real tight, and that would end up hurting her, and i wasnt able to go in very far. also start out small, let him lick it to get it arroused, then rub on it, and then just one finger, so that you can get used to it and also so that you can learn to control your muscles down there. my wife says that it is the same muscle that she uses in her vagina to squeeze my penis. if that helps any. some people say to try nd push like you are going to the bathroom but still when you do that you are prone to squeeze, and that just doesnt work. so jsut relax and let it jsut slide in, it may feel uncomfortable at first, but i promise you my wife says that she has never had better orgasms then when i give it to her analy. best of luck, and remember, if it feels good to you then that is all that matters

Answer 6

Are you female or male? That would help people better to help you. If your the guy, you go in nice and slow and wait til she's comfortable to "get into it". If your the woman, you relax as much as possible, maybe even a few drinks in ya to help ya relax. Oh, and lots of lube. So start investing in KY. Once your used to it, it feels great and it is possible to orgasm that way. Try it, you might like it. If ya dont, then just dont do it again.

Answer 7

Do alot of foreplay. Let him massage you, it will help you get relaxed. Take it very slow. Let him use his tongue first, then his finger. Apply lube. I think doggy is a great position for a first time anal sex. Enjoy!

Answer 8

Nothing wrong with experimenting. Use lots of lube, and for the first time you might also want to use something to relax your sphincter muscles so you don't hurt yourself.

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Answer 9

It's a sin first of all or considered unnatural.

It is very painful. You need lots of lubrication. I don't know what some women get out of it because it feels like you have to sh*t really bad. I don't like it at all. I hate when my boyfriend accidentally sticks it in there! Ouch!! That hurts!!

Answer 10

Ok, Use lots of Vaseline (Petroleum Jelly) and make sure you are very horny, because it is go to hurt like hell if you don't.