What do you think has caused you to be gay? Did you choose to become gay? do you think there is something that predetermined your sexuality before birth, like the "gay gene" that scientists have been trying to find for years but have failed so far. Or do you think it is a hormonal/chemical imbalance in the brain...a sort of "brain defect" that some scientists have hypothesized? the question wasn't meant to be rude, so if you don't want to answer, that's fine. i just thought that most homosexuals probably have thought about this at one time or another in their life, right? what do you think makes you different than everyone else? and by different i don't necessarily mean wrong or bad.
2007-05-13 09:52:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I have never been anything other than myself. I have never for one moment been attracted to men, nor have I ever really questioned what the cause of this might be ... why on earth should I? Gay people are born gay ... a scientific explanation, which I probably would not understand, does not really interest me that much. Seriously, how often do you think about being heterosexual? How often do you think about being you?
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2007-05-13 10:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by abetterfate 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
As far back as I can remember, I've had the attractions that I've had. I didn't know the difference until much later in life. I don't think that there was any one thing that made me the way that I am. What I am certain about is that it suits my personality. (Not that I'm effeminate) For me, it has always been a natural experience and has always made perfect sense.
Is it a defect? That would imply that it is a malfunction simply because it doesn't follow a majority of other cases. We humans are so varied that calling it a defect doesn't make any sense.
Is homosexuality quantifiable in any sort of biological way? Maybe so. In my opinion, it doesn't really matter.
2007-05-15 17:50:25 · answer #2 · answered by geewillie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a 'gene' at all. I'm not a scientist and haven't done any scientific research on the subject but I personally think it has to do with developmental issues during pregnancy. My personal theory is that it has something to do with hormones. Everyone has both estrogen and testosterone in them...guys have a little more testosterone and very low levels of estrogen. I think gay men have higher levels of estrogen (or whatever hormone makes girls attracted to guys) than straight men.
2007-05-14 04:40:31 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Sexi Man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly don't know what made me gay, except that it's true and that nothing psychologically can change it, and that nothing could've changed it even had you started from birth.
Sure, you can make people ashamed enough of homosexuality that they hide it, but you can't actually take away a person's sexual feelings.
As for homosexuality being a "chemical imbalance" or "defect," if something is as common as homosexuality, I would not call it a defect, but a trait. Like red hair or green eyes.
There may or may not be a "gay gene," but it is definitely genetic. I know it's not psychological. If I could've chosen whether I'd be straight or gay, I'd have probably chosen straight. But, I'm gay, nothing I can do about it.
2007-05-13 17:00:44 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan 2 · 4⤊ 1⤋
personally..i believe i was born gay..
mainly because..i remember being drawn to women..at a very young age (3 years old) no, it wasnt sexual then..i was just a child! but there was a definite attraction and preference of some sort.
as to what causes people to be born gay..if that in fact IS how it is..i dont know. and at this point, i'm fine with not knowing..im happy with the gender my brain and heart tells me i want..
2007-05-13 18:55:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't pick it, it picked me, I had no say at all. I've always been this way, I have never known another life.
It's not a defect since it happens naturally.
I'm not different than everyone else, I am the same, my sexual orientation is less common, that's it, but the only abnormal sexual orientation is to lack a sexual orientation.
Thanks for not attaching negative connotations to your question. For me it is neither good nor bad, just is, it doesn't define me one bit. Just defines for others who I am attracted to, nothing else. It's a descriptor basically, or a trait, like brown hair or blue eyes. I can no more escape it than I can leave my skin.
2007-05-13 17:30:59 · answer #6 · answered by Luis 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well I have to differ with the first answerer... Being gay is a psychological idea. It's the way your brain is made up. I am bi (but more gay than straight). I have a really good friend (we're both girls) who... well... I like a bit more than just a friend. I also have a boyfriend, but I don't like him the same way I like my other friend (who's the girl)... As much as I try to get myself more sexually attracted to him, I just can't seem to do it. However, I don't even have to try and be sexually attracted to my other friend (the girl) at all... in fact the more I try to not be attracted to her, the more I end up liking her. I can't help being bi... it's just the way I'm made up. I'm not sure if ther is a "gay gene" or if it is genetic (none of my relatives have ever shown signs of being gay... at least they have not expressed it openly). Honestly, at first I hated being attracted to my (girl) friend... but now I really don't mind it and I don't try and seperate myself from her anymore. I guess this hurts my relationship with my boyfriend because since I have accepted being bi, I just can't really seem to be turned on by him all that much. All of this experience has led me to see that gayness is the way your brain is put together.
If you look at it from another perspective you can't tell a straight guy/girl to truly become sexually attracted and love one of their friends of the same sex.... just like how you can't tell a gay guy/girl to not be gay and become attracted to a person of the opposite sex. It's proven that homosexuality and hetersexuality are two perfectly normal psychological ways of being (as much as society wants to believe the fact that homosexuality is NOT normal... it's true... Homosexuality is psychologically proven to be completely normal)... it's all in the construction of your brain.
hope this helps a bit ;-)
2007-05-13 17:23:44 · answer #7 · answered by make love not war 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I would very much like to know that myself
it feels like every fibre of my being
is hardwired for same sex love
I never choose to be a "bummer"
people who harp on about
"chosing that lifestyle"
always *** me off
i always felt like liking men
chrushes at school when i was seven
etc
im sorry im rambling on
i wonder if one day
they have a test
not only to determine
gender but sexuality
did anyone see that hallmark film about the genetisist
that dicover his unborn son was going to be a fruit?
they had to decide whether or not to abort it
WTF?????????????
2007-05-13 17:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by dregj 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's predetermined by something or other...seriously - why would ne1 choose to be gay?
2007-05-13 18:41:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am what I am, nothing more, nothing less. I have known that I was gay from the start. As long as I can remember.
2007-05-13 18:00:05 · answer #10 · answered by PARKERD 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋