I don't like to talk about myself to my family members or friends. I feel that others will judge me negatively or think ill of me.
What is the best way to overcome this feeling? It probably stems from the fact that my own immediate family judges me and I feel that the rest of the world will also.
There is really no one that I talk to regarding my daily activities and feelings.
2007-05-13 07:17:35 · 6 answers · asked by Stareyes 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I am the same,perhaps you can just come on here where there is less judgement or less consequence.
I think the fear is that often letting people know your internal weaknesses sometimes puts thems in a greater position to use them against you later on.
You will find people who you have enough faith and comfort with to be able to 'bare your soul' until then just come on here.
2007-05-13 11:48:53 · answer #1 · answered by rusalka 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The problem is this: what some people term conversation is really interrogation. Also the more you insist (politely) that is none of their business, they turn the more inquisitive.
The trick is to turn the tables on them by talking about the subject of their question in a conversational way. For example if they ask you about what do you normally do on a Sunday afternoon you could say, it is very interesting about Sunday afternoons, I especially like the way the light illuminates the back garden around 4 pm...
2007-05-13 14:07:55 · answer #2 · answered by Freddy F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just take things one step at a time and slowly. Find one person that you feel you can trust. And just start talking to them, even if it is just about the weather, or a bug or anything, and eventually you will begin to open up more. i use to be a very quiet person, afraid to trust anyone, because i felt that others would think ill of me, or not like me anymore. But then i found one person that i felt i could trust it took a few months but eventually i was able to open up. Hope this helps...
2007-05-13 09:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by elida b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try keeping a journal of whats going on in your mind from day to day to relieve some of that tension. although its not a person, at least you get your thoughts outside of yourself were you can better deal with them. do some type of exercise of your choice, everyday enough to break a gooooooood sweat, it gets you feeling good, believe me. i do not know what specific things you are self conscience about but writing them down and the exercise will help. i would also recommend getting a hobby, whether it be guitar,archery,running, stamp collecting,dog sledding. it doesn't matter. but it has to be something you are passionate about, furthermore you need to stick with it and get good at it. this is a recipe for learning to be comfortable with yourself and confident. just keep your chin up and do not give up. these changes will take time and will be hard, you just have to make yourself do it even when you do not want to, and you WILL NOT WANT TO. and that's the rub we all face. i have been where your at, and i know its no picnic. but hey you got one person pulling for you and thats a start. may you realize your dream...........
2007-05-13 07:36:25 · answer #4 · answered by dajadelibra 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself :-) you might be surprised! Life is too short to worry about what others think about. You are not going to be liked by everyone, I don't know anyone who is. Just take it slowly at first and "chime in". You might be surprised at how much you have in common with somebody. Never keep things bottled up and find somebody to trust to talk to. Good Luck!
2007-05-13 07:32:07 · answer #5 · answered by Just M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can do a lot of public speaking
2007-05-13 07:20:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋