We live together for about a year and a half now and I do not know why he wont divorce her. He gives me fifty million excuses but I feel he is jerking my chain. I love him but I want to get married and we cant. What should I do?!
2007-05-13 06:15:48 · 16 answers · asked by swtaspi2003 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes his wife knows about me. Her children come here to visit us and my son has also spent time at her house when she lived in the same state. I swear I am not a home wrecker. They had been split up already when me and him started dating. Honestly I never thought it would go this far. Now years later I am stuck! I do not think he loves her, correction, in love with her but there is a reason he wont do it. He is six years my elder and has three more kids than me. All of this was absolete when our love was good. Now I think I am just fed up and all of those things matter. Maybe I was just blind by love, but I am in a hole and I dont know how to save myself the best way possible. These things sometimes do work and sometimes dont. I just dont know if it is all in vain. I know I could just leave but yall, I love this man. Its is not like he sees her (unless we go down there together and visit) and he is very good to me. Until it comes to this issue.
2007-05-13 09:27:12 · update #1
It's time to move on, Sister. My ex did that for 5.5 years and I finally tired of it. Now I am married to a man that is completely mine. :O)
2007-05-17 06:16:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say your instinct is telling you what to do. It sounds as if he want to have his cake and eat it too, it makes no since why he won't divorce his wife if you two have lived together for a year and a half, thats way more time than it should have taken him to go through with a divorce. I also feel he is jerking your chain, ignorance is no excuse, so I would give him an ultimatum to divorce her, or you will have to end it, because if he doesn't, he obviously doesn't want to marry you.
2007-05-13 06:22:04 · answer #2 · answered by doc 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but that's the price you pay, when you play. You should have never gotten with a married man. He's not going to leave his wife, he has no intention of geting married to you. Why would he. He's got the best of both worlds now. Good luck!
2007-05-13 06:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by larry m♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop that relationship if that is the case...you dont deserve to still cling on him...Just remember, he is already married and has a family to protect and cared for...that would be his reason why he cant divorce her.
2007-05-13 06:28:43 · answer #4 · answered by miks 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can't is the key word....Won't is a given. Walk away and never look back, this is a lot of things but love it is not and sadly it never will be.
2007-05-13 06:26:13 · answer #5 · answered by jodie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You and him are wrong. He is married and cheating and you are helping him do that. He apparently doesn't love you if he doens't want to be with ONLY you. You both need to cut eachother loose and you need to find someone single.
2007-05-13 06:20:31 · answer #6 · answered by Forever the Sickest Kim 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it depend what you want out of it really. can you be happy like you are? i mean he is with you right? maybe theres a problem shes causing. maybe hes hiding something. maybe you shoud leave him but i know people who r happy in your sitation and last long time. does he truely love you? does he believe in devorce?will he get screwed if he devorces her? he might be better married.
2007-05-13 06:23:23 · answer #7 · answered by mcalano77 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes he wont leave her and he will leave u when he finds someone new. A guy who cant commit wont keep you for long plus he doesnt love u if he doesnt commit
2007-05-13 06:24:51 · answer #8 · answered by heleanthusovulia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
girl you are slow you should of dumped hem a long time ago he is just using it wasn't very smart getting mixed up with him with a married man anyway
2007-05-13 06:22:21 · answer #9 · answered by bggarry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
More information please.....I'm assuming his wife knows that he is living w/you? Does she want a divorce?
2007-05-13 06:24:13 · answer #10 · answered by IceIt71 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋