how do i become a better lover in bed 2 my wife if i always get criticism and lectured by how i make luv 2 her

Question

i always get criticized by how i give oral and that i make too much sounds when i do this, but when i try to not make the sounds thy get worse she says. this always leads to arguing the next morning and i feel as if i'm always to blame, like i'm always the problem. when before all this it was never an issue, we were just so happy to be with eachother, making love never was so complicated till recently, i try to spice things up, i go slower then fastet but it still seems to be a problem. what do i do?

Answer 1

It's about compromise. If you can't compromise - or rather will not - then what's the point to staying together? Sex is very important in a healthy relationship and if she's nagging you about something you're giving her (especially when so many women claim their S/O won't do that!) then she's the problem.

You just may have to learn to adjust your technique. Try going at it differently - a different position. Lie on your back and have her straddle you. Try it from a 69 position. Try it with her on her side and you on your side.

Noises are common with this. Ask her, "What is it about the slurping noise that bothers you so much?" Do NOT ask 'WHY?' because that is challenging her - rather ask her 'How does that sound bother you?' or 'What is it about that sound?' that way you get the answer you seek without the personal challenge.

Another way is to have her wear headphones and listen to music to block out the sounds of your slurping.

Hope this helps.

Answer 2

Nasty Problem that you better get around very quickly, or you will not be doing anything in the sex department. Parts of men have a way of letting others know when they are unhappy, if you catch my drift!
If she doesn't like what you do, stop doing it. If you are trying to please her and it is not working, then please yourself. If she is so bad at body language and expects you to second guess what feels good, then trust me, this is not your fault. The wise person gives off lots of strong signals when something is right, and nice "try this" when it is wrong. There are nice ways that are very helpful, and there are wrong ways that are very destructive...your wife is hell bent on destruction here. My advice to her is: "Be very careful what you wish for, you may get it, and it is never exactly what you thought it would be."
Print out this question and all answers. The next "morning after session ", I would pull this out and say, "I am lost here and asked for help...here is what I got." She needs a strong dose of reality.

Answer 3

iam not sure the problems are yours,ask her what she likes,or ask her to perform orla on you {i know its not the same ] it might tell you something about her, or in the heat of agurament ask how perevious boyfreinds gave oral? as far as noises so what








































the problem is hers.when my husband makes noises,i figure he just trying to get every last drop.i am a commer. in less
your walls are papre thin or livin with her parents in same apt./house theres nothing to be up set about.start slow to medium fast when you feel a tightinesl and she turn pinky-red go for the grand slam as fast as you can. ah the lil death,so good.also try porn soft or hard if not she got a sugar daddy on the side who is eating all the candy.
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Answer 4

You are getting answer from an older woman ok-------As far as oral sex goes to each his own .If your wife doesn't like the sounds you make then just don't do "it". You are supposed to be able to enjoy the act just as much as she does. ask her to do to you what she wants you to do her so you can get an idea of what she wants.---explain to that being treated like this isn't doing much to ensure a good sex life or a happy marriage.---You may need to except the idea that the problem may not be yours..... try to talk---not argue.....good luck

Answer 5

I think you should be questioning why all of a sudden she is not liking it when she liked it before. That should put up some red flags for you. I think some serious talks are in order first. Heck it would make me so mad I would be tempted not to let her have anything. I think she is wrong for doing this to you. Talk it out and get down to why she is doing this. I would suspect cheating if I was you.

Answer 6

Are there any underlying relationship issues? Your wife seems to be unhappy. You need to talk to her openly and honestly about why she is unhappy with your performance.

If it is strictly based on technique, you should check out the educational videos at bettersex.com. There are many resources available to increase your bedroom skills.

You might want to try a marriage counselor that specializes in sexual issues. This could help a lot. There is no shame in fixing your marriage. Everyone should want to please their partner.

Answer 7

Stop giving oral sex to her if she dont like how you do it then thats her problem. Also try having sex in the middle of the night when you two are half a sleep thats when things get a little freaky lol.

Answer 8

She is sleeping with someone and she is doing it only to keep you on a back foot so that if you ever find it, you should not be able to question her with confidence and she would always have the reason to cheat on you. Please do not trust me 100%. I might be wrong in giving this suggestion so you may like to seek somebody else's advice as well.

Answer 9

First of all - don't discuss your sex life in the bed. Pick a time when you're relaxed (and alone) to casual agree to really discuss it. Maybe even visit an adult store together.

Second - Every woman is NOT - I repeat - NOT - the same!

Good luck!

Answer 10

I feel sorry for you man. It sounds like she is taking you for granted, and forgot that you have to totally respect the other person at all times. My husband told me that his ex's were very demanding. Guess that's why they're ex's now isn't it?