I just found email messages going back to 2006 between my husband and an ex-girlfriend/friend from high school (15 yrs. ago) most of his emails and actually bashing me. I got so mad at him for lying to me about her. I feel very angry and hurt when I read those emails, like my heart dropped. I am a very giving and loving wife and mother of two and I cannot believe I have read what I found. He apolozied up and down for it. I even asked if he has called her and he says no, but in one of the emails he states from her "thanks for calling, sorry i could not talk long, my husband was coming out of the shower" seems very sneaky to me. So he lied. I accepted his apologize, but every time i wake up, i am so mad at him, i dont talk to him and when i do, it is very nasty. Unlike me at all. I cannot forget this. Any help???
2007-05-13 05:48:26 · 11 answers · asked by GQ69 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can understand your hurt and frustration. Man I would be holding a grudge myself if my hubby did that. I say if you truly want your marriage to work then you need to forgive him and work on your marriage. There must be a reason behind why he did this. Look at where you can improve on your marriage and keep him from straying too far. Get counseling if need be. Otherwise if you continue to let things go your marriage will be in trouble.
2007-05-13 06:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by hsmommy06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry. I think that your husband has started a whirlwind of deceit that will only end when your divorced and not talking any more.
I had an experience like this once also with children, tried to work it out but I too would wake angry, even in the middle of the night.
I thought i was the [perfect woman, after that I didn't try so hard to be perfect. I only felt better after I had gotton even and swore from that moment on that he would never be one up on me. I lived in anger and revenge for way to long, trust me that's a miserable;e way to live. In the end I drove him crazy, litter ally, he jumped of a bridge, cryed every day was paranoid as all hell, but he also beat up on me and I felt he deserved it. In the end we ended up loosing parental rights to our two children over all the fights. bad husband you have there. I would bet money that he is sleeping with her. Get even b4 you get a divorce and then some, let the M.Fkr know how it feels. Sorry again.
2007-05-13 09:59:20 · answer #2 · answered by 29LICKS & MR.29LICKS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geeze, Stink, you count extensive form lies like counting coup. He have been given caught along with his palms interior the cookie jar and additionally you act all-surprised-like that he, like, denies it. Wow! What do you want? you want him to gloat? This stupid journey happens to maximum men at one time or yet another in our sleazy society. in case you do not drop it . . . what do you think of will come next? i could wager he will plan yet another, extra relaxing journey, hum? One final element. Your previous habit is or isn't as pristine as water from an Alpine Glacier. Yeah, i'm not gonna shout Lied!
2017-01-09 18:42:55 · answer #3 · answered by ponyah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a long time to heal. If hes still lying or you are still suspecting him you wont even begin to heal until its all out in the open. You just cant move past something thats still not settled.
2007-05-13 06:14:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband did something very similar...not with an ex but with one of his girl-friends from work. He not only bad mouthed me but also lied to her about what it was that I was getting upset about. I found the email because he left it open on our computer. My husband tried to defend himself that he just lied b/c he didn't want anyone else at work to find out what the problem was...I told him it was fair. He isn't being fair to you. If he feels like he needs to talk to his ex then he needs to know that he bette be honest about everything...not bad mouth you. Everyone needs to talk to someone but he needs to find someone who is going to help him fix things not just stay mad. If he wants to keep this relationship with her then he has to know that he is hurting your relationship. Tell him straight up that in marriage we talk not make eachother look bad. I told my husband when I talked to people yes they know that bad things he did but i also never hide the bad things I do...plus I never lied or let them bad mouth him. You deserve that respect whoever he needs to talk to. GL
2007-05-13 07:59:18 · answer #5 · answered by superwmn315 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once a man hurts your heart its hard to be nice. Personally
I held a grudge and was mean and nasty to my hubby he started to fall out of love with me..now we are seperated...
2007-05-13 05:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts to be lied to and talked about, especially by someone that is supposed to love and protect you. Hopefully he has stopped and time will heal all.
2007-05-13 05:52:45 · answer #7 · answered by Tyra99 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgiveness is a process is not just one click, what you are in too is just one of the stages but you should also learn when to jump to the next level,
2007-05-13 05:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by eseer e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, put a pillow over the lying bastards head and put him out of your misery, MEN ARE PIGS!!!!
2007-05-13 05:58:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is uesless to get mad, it will made you worst and spoil your day, I will say to him if he liar again no sex for 1 month.
2007-05-13 05:55:48 · answer #10 · answered by ubon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋