My girl's been gone for 11 months at school now(crash course in pelucaria[hair school]) Her dad died about a week ago. She says she doesn't want me to go see her at school(3 hrs away) but she acts like she's mad because I'm leaving her alone. What the hell, eh? She's got about 3 weeks left of school. She wants left alone. Does that sound reasonable???
2007-05-13 04:16:34 · 25 answers · asked by Meatball ;) 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
lol, eh? No that's a mexican thing for me. but I know what you mean. I got a good friend that's from up around Edmonton.
2007-05-13 11:27:07 · update #1
I gotta give it to you all. I never thought this would be the place to come with a rel question. You all have really come through for me when I needed some honest opinions. Thank you ALL so much.
And if anyone cares... I ordered her some flowers and some pizza delivery, and left her alone. When that many of you agree then there must be something to it. Thanks agian
2007-05-13 11:30:46 · update #2
There's no way I could ever pick one answer out of all of these, so I'll let you all come vote for your own. ;)
2007-05-13 11:42:57 · update #3
well perhaps she doesnt want you to run into her new boyfriend....ya think? because if u think about it, when a tragedy occurs like loosing someone close to you, you want the people you love the most around you...its not a time for isolation...so therefore its possible shes moved on...only time will tell the REAL story~!
2007-05-13 04:19:02 · answer #1 · answered by cindy 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wanting to be left alone at such a time is perfectly understandable. Some people need that time. I would say that you should send her a care package of some sort to let her know that you're there for her first of all. This is one of those situations where you have to be really intuitive about the whole thing...it sounds like surprising her by driving to see her might still be a good idea, as long as you catch her at a time when she's not too busy. I can't say I know how she feels, but if I were in her situation, I'd probably want to be left alone except for maybe one or two people I love and trust the most, so if you are one of those people for her, she might very well be happy to see you if you surprised her with a visit...
I arrived late to your question, I hope some of the other responses help if mine has already been suggested :)
2007-05-13 11:37:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, since I promised to answer, here goes... From what you said, your girl does not sound reasonable. She doesn't want you to visit her at her school and yet she's mad that your leaving her alone? That's just a mixed message, plain and simple. I'm not sure we're getting the whole picture here. I can tell you this though, losing a parent is an incredibly stressful thing to go through. I think you should give her some space until she tells you otherwise.
2007-05-13 11:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting. She is going through a lot of emotions because
of her dad but I don't understand why she wouldn't want you
to come and visit her. I would be suspicious that she might
have another boyfriend. If you feel like going to see her
take some flowers and a nice condolence card maybe
even a gift and see how things go. Otherwise just give her
some time to get through this rough patch in her life.
Either way hope all goes well with the two of you.
2007-05-13 11:24:51 · answer #4 · answered by chmar11 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may say that and want the opposite - but maybe she wants it to be YOUR idea to come see her. You're in a bad situation because she probably doesn't even know herself what she wants for sure. I lost my dad several years ago - I'm sure part of her wants to be left alone and part of her wants yu to hold her - I wish you luck. Just be there for her when she calls and says she needs you....that's really all you can do.
2007-05-13 11:22:04 · answer #5 · answered by Kat A. Tonic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont really know how she feels cuz we dont know her relationship with you or with her dad....
everyone suffers that type of loss differently...
she may need the space or she may be really needing you to run to her but cant say it... only you would know that...
from the little bit known from your question i'd say... be patient... be understanding... give her her space... call her often... keep offering your attention and comfort... be there when she finally needs you... see hwat happens when school is over... let her take the lead.
best of luck with a difficult situation.
2007-05-13 11:22:05 · answer #6 · answered by HB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems okay but she is probably grieving the loss of her dad. If I were you I would go see her and see what happens. She might be just saying that she doesn't want you to come see her to test your love. I know it sounds childish.
2007-05-13 11:21:59 · answer #7 · answered by Me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave her alone. Then let her get mad at you, no matter what you do, you lose. Women are extremely emotional, bi-polar creatures. Even me.
You did the right thing. In not going to Singles & Dating for help, I mean...
2007-05-13 11:19:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess she is in a really bad way right now, if I was in her position I would just want my dad back. Give her time, she is really emotional right now. But let her know you're there for her.
2007-05-13 11:21:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess so. If she wants to be left alone, she wants to be left alone.
But girls tend to say things that they want the opposite of, so yep, keep in touch and talk to her occasionally to show you're there for her.
2007-05-13 11:24:48 · answer #10 · answered by Banana Hero [sic] 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might be messed up from her dad dying, so try not to take things to heart. Try to deal with her insanity for a littel while longer, and maybe talk to her other family members to see if they know what's going on with her and anything you can do.
2007-05-13 11:20:46 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋