could my boyfriend be depressed?

Question

My boyfriend of one year just broke-up with me. I had noticed that his moods revolved around what was happening in his life. If he found a new friend, had his daughter visiting, or went to visit friends on the west coast, he would come back and be almost "high". In between these events in his life, his mood would be down. He would be very irritable and not want to do anything. He doesn't have any close friends. His immediate family live 300 miles away and their religious differences keep them apart. The friends he does make that are local he quickly loses, or distances himself from. At first I thought it was his drinking problem. He became sober in March and everything was great for a while, now he's down again. He recently broke-up with me. I know that I can't do anything to get him back, but I really want to understand what he is going through.

Answer 1

Well, depression is certainly one possibility. You have told us certain facts that point to a pattern here. First you say his daughter visits--is she an adult or his he divorced? If he's divorced it means somebody else has been in your position and either left him or was pushed away.

Second you say he doesn't keep friends long, that he's moody, estranged from family and drinks. You also mentioned that sometimes he seems "high."

All of these add up to a problem that may be more than depression. It sounds like he has some form of mood affective disorder. Perhaps he's bipolar? It sounds like he was using alcohol to self-medicate away the down side of the cycle.

He needs to seek help from a competent professional--first a medical doctor (to rule out physical ailments causing this) then a psychiatrist. You can encourage him, but he has to make the choice.

Sounds like he might want to make the choice if he brought his drinking under control. Why not take the next step and find a professional to help him and encourage him to visit?

By the way, bipolars are hard to diagnose and even harder to treat. It usually means taking medicine and when they start feeling well, they stop taking their medicine, usually crash and start the cycle of ups and downs again. Sometimes bipolars only have one half of the cycle--normal state and depression or normal state and mania, sometimes they have the complete cycle going from depressed to normal to manic to normal to depressed again.

You and he broke up, I assume you are asking because you still want the relationship and you want to help. Bravo.

Answer 2

first of each and every of the mother is a heart much less B**** at the start you do not want (want) an identity to artwork. i'm sixteen and while i became 12 + i labored and that i've got been given a job in blend exhibit final Month no identity mandatory. So it ought to easily mean he's lazy and not displaying it. because of the fact my brothers like that. first identity then automobile and it merely is going on and on. And 20 Min's it quite is like 3/4 the time from my college and probable extra for different youngsters because of the fact i understand i stay closer.AND we stroll to college so it must be yet another sine hes lazy. Abd hes an person alreadyhe ought to understand how life is. no person is merely going handy you regardless of you want. No ones going to call you which you have a ramdom interest. Face it life is complicated. not something solid ever comes ordinary / And if he needs money he will ought to commence from the backside when you consider that his dad did not gave him something to commence him out with. commence finding out on up bottols and cans. i understand some people who do it and that they simply about have there whoe lease not very reminiscent of six hundred greenbacks i understand yet use that funds to purchase your "identity" then. thats one million or 2/6 of the coast.

Answer 3

Having quite a lot of experience with depression myself i would say yes, he certainly does sound depressed. By what you say he seems like a bit of a lost soul and doesnt really know what he wants. It sounds like he would benefit from counciling, talking to someone totally cut off from your life can really help, it helped me! I hope you are ok, being the person on the other end of depression can be hard

Answer 4

He certainly has problems but thankfully they no longer affect you. He needs to seek help on so many levels but he has to understand what he needs, not you. Move on.