2007-05-13 03:31:56 · 26 answers · asked by ala 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No it isn't unreasonable! If you marry someone, you want to be sure you agree on that very important topic of procreation. You will probably be heartbroken if you marry him, expecting that he is going to want children as much as you do, and then come to find out that he really doesn't! I think it is quite reasonable to bring that up, and very smart actually. If he doesn't want kids, as much as you love him, you will have to let him go and wait/look for the right kind of man for you. Don't settle for less.
Love and lots of blessings
CuteMom
2007-05-13 04:10:17 · answer #1 · answered by MamiZorro2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If having children is something that you want in your life and you don't think that you are willing to not become a parent at some point in your life, then no, I don't thinks it's unreasonable to let him know your expectations in life in relation to the person you spend your life with. If having children is a deal-breaker then it's better you let him know in advance. Now if you've only been dating this person for a short while, having that conversation is inappropriate too early. Dating and having conversations is how you find out about peoples philosophies and life goals and desires so you can then decide if you want to marry one another.
2007-05-13 04:13:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey it is your life, and I do not think it is unreasonable. If you want kids and he never wants kids, after you get married, in the future your happiness may be in jeopardy. Love does overcome a lot. However, I have known of a lot of women who have cheated on their husband’s years after their husband had a vasectomy just to get pregnant. What kind of marriage is that then? Find out why he does not want kids, maybe that issue can be overcome?
2007-05-13 03:52:46 · answer #3 · answered by Industrial Rx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it's not unreasonable. It sounds like you know what you want and you have every right to know if he wants to have children with you. Why should you marry someone who dosen't want children and you do. It will only make your life miserable and probably end up in divorce.
2007-05-13 03:42:38 · answer #4 · answered by 24Special 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not at all unreasonable......marraige is part about raising a family and besides this is not conditional love. Ofcourse if your husband cant have kids due to some medical reasons then if u really love him you both will adopt some children ;)
2007-05-13 04:19:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No it is not unreasonable, you have wants too. To me that is a big part of getting married and having a life with someone, family is a part of life! Good luck.
2007-05-13 03:35:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. But if he ends up pleasing you and having a child with you, it was for all the wrong reasons. Two people should want to have children...not just one. You should discuss this together and figure out what the two of you really want in life.
2007-05-13 03:36:57 · answer #7 · answered by ~MEEEOW~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not unreasonable to know what you both want in a marriage. If he doesn't want kids, and you do, you can say anything you want. I doubt it will change things.
2007-05-13 05:24:32 · answer #8 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel that having children is very important, then i think it is reasonable to tell him. It is something that will affect the success of your marriage, so both of you should agree on that.
2007-05-13 03:40:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't phrase it like that. That's something you should discuss before the subject of marriage comes up. You should tactfully explain that your desire for children is very important to you and that you need to be with someone who wants them also.
2007-05-13 03:35:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋