I found her contact info on his cell phone and deleted it. He freeked out. I think he's still talking to her. Does anyone have any other ideas on finding out if they are still together? I can't ask him because he'll just lie.
2007-05-13 03:30:32 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
More than likely he's still in contact with her if he freaked when you deleted it. It probably also made him freak that you found it. Sounds like it's time to move on if he's going to lie to you. It's not a healthy marriage and it will only make you wonder all the time and make you miserable. Is this what you want? It dosen't seem to bother him any, and as long as you tolerate this lying and cheating he will keep on doing it.Good Luck
2007-05-13 04:08:35 · answer #1 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trust your instincts. If you are personally going through his cell phone looking for information regarding the other woman, and have a number then it is most likely still happening. Call and request or personally go into the cell phone carrier and request copies of the last several months of bills....that should tell you a lot right there. If he freaked,then chances are that he is still seeing her and talking to her. If you ask him and he lies then your relationship is not one based on being honest and communicating well. If he were not seeing her, then it would not be an issue of finding her number in his phone. I agree..he is still seeing her.
2007-05-13 10:37:34 · answer #2 · answered by kay n 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For one thing I don't know if I would've deleted someone's contact number from my husband's or whoever it may be phone because they probably know that info by heart unless they just met the person. But to answer your question you can find out if your husband is seeing that person if you follow him or hire someone to get physical proof. Because I feel it's better to see it with your own eyes than to go by he say she say eventhough what someone says me be true therefore have physical evidence that he is cheating whether it be that you follow him or you hire someone to find out for you. You may be saying to yourself follow him oh no but the fact of the matter is that's a way to find out for yourself unless you do like some women which is call his numbers in his phone which I think is crazy because they may not know he is married and the only thing they will do is tell him that you called. But either way find physical evidence. More importantly I hope he isn't cheating on you and I wish you the best.
2007-05-13 10:39:05 · answer #3 · answered by toot 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take your home phone and call your own cell. Once you have a communication between the both put your cell in his car somewhere he can`t see then use your home phone to listen what is going on. If he cheats, the first thing he will do when he gets into his car is call her to tell her he`s on his way and you will be able to hear his conversation from your home phone.
They don`t call me Jane Marple for nothing.
2007-05-13 11:07:00 · answer #4 · answered by Jane Marple 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"Trust your instincts'? "follow your heart" I hear those phrases used a lot here in Yahoo. It seems to me your heart and instincts steered you wrong the first time, so DON'T TRUST THEM anymore. Instead of spying and spending money following him, just used the courts system that is TOTALLY stacked against men.
Divorce his butt and let your sleazy lawyer exact your pound of flesh. Make that cheating bastttard pay, and get your lawyer rich in the process. Of course don't worry that your heart is turning to stone, some other dumb basstard will come along and you can take him to the cleaners. There is no shortage of stupid men and vultures waiting to exploit them.
Have fun and I'll look for your ad on Craigslist.
You 'll be the BBW who wants a man with Tom Cruise looks, Warren Buffet money and Richard Simmons' "sensativity", because you "deserve " it.
2007-05-13 10:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess you prefer to stay with someone you cannot trust. To me that's crazy and I don't care how much you love him - if you're not getting the same amount of love in return as well as RESPECT then there's little reason to stay.
But to answer your question, you should hire someone to follow him such as a private investigator. Once you have the photos, you can hang his worthless butt out to dry in court. Plus photos give you irrefutable proof that he was with her even though he claims otherwise. One lie leads to another an another...
2007-05-13 10:34:22 · answer #6 · answered by Jack S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to find out. What would that do? If you don't trust him (which you don't), it's time to get out of the relationship. If he's lying about it, you obviously aren't going to get him to counseling, so fixing the marriage isn't gonna happen. That takes both of you. If he wasn't seeing her, why the contact info? And why the over-reaction when you deleted it?
2007-05-13 10:35:31 · answer #7 · answered by Midnight 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes a woman's intuition serves as God's gift for her because it helps her to protect herself from further harm. Look at him in the eye and listen to your heart. If it tells you he's lying, your intuition could just be right. You must be very very nervous and disappointed now. What you need is a group of gal pals who'd see you through this difficult period. Take care!
2007-05-13 10:55:46 · answer #8 · answered by citrusy 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You know, if you push the issue, you will just keep it alive and push him further away from you. If he is seeing her, and this is grounds for you to break up with him, if you are ready to do that, get an investigator to follow him around. If you want to stay with him, leave it alone. If he is still with you, it is because he wants to be.
2007-05-13 10:38:14 · answer #9 · answered by Alicia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are checking his cell phone, and probably his computer, and any other way of checking on him, he knows that you don't trust him. Your next move is to hire a private detective, and have him followed.
2007-05-13 10:35:16 · answer #10 · answered by Beau R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋