One last fling?

Question

In a long term relationship would anyone want one last fling before settling down? Can it mean nothing?

Answer 1

Sounds like you feel something lacking in your LTR.

Is this an excuse to look elsewhere?

You need to honestly examine your feelings of why you want to do this...

Answer 2

In my opinion, a long term relationship IS settling down, so all flings should be over at that point.

Answer 3

well there goes my happy ending..lol..honey there aint no last flings that mean nada..a fling is a deliberate planning to carry out a plan already contrived in our head..kinda like murdering someone..if you want to settle down then that means giving up everyone including flings because you have been fortunate to find someone who adores you and is willing to be our one and ONLY..if your thinking about one last flings then obviously your not ready to take it a step further and be monogomous in the relationship you have now..your only cheating yourself and the one person who will be in your life..don't even think it..karma has a way of kicking you in the rear end when you least expect it..

Answer 4

It means everything... or at least that you're not ready to settle down.

Stop kidding yourself. You're looking for a way out. That doesn't make you a bad person, but you shouldn't drag yourself or your beloved into a commitment that you're not ready to make and deceive them in the process.

Put the commitment off for 6 months (i.e., don't move in together, consider negotiating whether to spend as much time together, etc.). If by then you're more sure of your direction, you can then more confidently decide to share your future. If you're less sure or still on the fence, that's a sure sign you've got a big ache to be single.

Answer 5

Darling while you're already feeling undesirable and you have not completed something then there is your answer, do not injury what you have for something which would be meaningless. certainty is that if your truthfully and actually love this guy and honestly decide to marry him then do not do it. while you're having doubts approximately residing with him and commiting to him, then talk to him approximately it, do exactly not injury him like that because of the fact no be counted what you do he will locate out a fashion or the different, via some skill. think of with regard to the type you will possibly sense in case you he had to do an identical difficulty, intercourse is purely what it is, besides the incontrovertible fact that it is a superb deal greater passionate once you do it with the guy you honestly care approximately.

Answer 6

this fling would have had to happen before the ltr and settling down, otherwise the ltr means nothing and flinging means everything.

Answer 7

It can mean nothing, but only if you're an insensitive, unfeeling clod. For most people, the guilt and shame such an act would cause to their loved one is enough to prevent them from going through with it.

Answer 8

i dont know

Answer 9

no

Answer 10

no.