Well??? I've been dating my boyfriend for nearly 6 months now he knows I am a virgin and says he will wait because he respects me and no silly replies
2007-05-13 01:28:38 · 27 answers · asked by Kerry_cfc 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
first of all, i think it is really commendable that you are both willing to wait. you've found a great guy, if he really means that he can wait until you are ready.
secondly, wait as long as you need to. you'll know when you are ready. it could be tomorrow, it could be in a year, and that's okay. when you feel comfortable enough to be naked with him, and give him the most intamate part of yourself, then it's time. until then, hold off. not sleeping with him is totally okay.
and of course, when you do take that step, use protection. (sorry, i just had to say it. :) )
2007-05-19 16:39:40 · answer #1 · answered by giantmt25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi..
Ok, this is a very open question, as you know...and it really varies depending on different people...depends on your values, what you believe in.
Some people believe that sex is only right if done after marriage (me included). This is because sex is sacred, and can only be shared with the one person they truly love, and is right for them. Call it conventional, but for people life these, it really feels good if they do wait, and after the wedding, they feel a sense of worthiness, that they had actually waited
But you say that you're 6 months into your relationship. Your bf is nice enough to respect your virginity...so, it looks like it's up to you to decide on this. I don't know how young you are, but if you're younger than 21, then give it awhile. See how long the relationship goes. If you dont mind having sex knowing that the relationship might end one day...then the ball is in your court honey.
Personally, I'd give it a year.
Hope I answered your question :)
2007-05-13 01:42:07 · answer #2 · answered by caprichic2002 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have waited this long so keep waiting. If you are a virgin don't give it away because you think it is what he wants. If the two of you really love each other & you both got your education out of the way & have good jobs get married. It only takes "one time" to get pregnant. Save your virginity for the right person & the right time.
2007-05-20 03:58:41 · answer #3 · answered by simplesimon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no silliness here virgins can wait for sex nothing wrong with that at all.have nice guy if says will wait for sex and then no pressure to have it.
but if not virgin material and on otherside of heated passion and girl wants sex asap then different story. waiting for your man is silly cause you already know that the love is there and are just wanting to express your already deep feeling for one another on a more intimate level and cannot wait and can drive you mad while you do cause you know you want no other and to answer this question how long to wait for sex the answer would be yesterday already. or just have to see person and and this answer will come quick. since its not something you have to wait and see when you already have and know it and can no longer seem to hide your feelings or control it being the passion burning inside of you which can suprise the other when they seem to be near you. there is no rule or set time for this and happening unplanned is best.
2007-05-17 22:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have oto if you dont want to . How old are you ?? And I still havent had sex with my boyfriend and we have been going out for 3 years he respects me and he is not a creep by saying I am sexy or hot and he is nice he calls me beautiful and that is what your boyfriend should do but wait until your a little older at least util your like 19 or 20 But at least he is being nice by respecting you Good luck I hope my advice worked
2007-05-20 12:16:28 · answer #5 · answered by Maggie E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Knowing now what I didn't know earlier in life, wait until marriage. The act of sex actually conjoins you spiritually, emotionally, and physically. If you give yourself to the act of sex, then you have deposited a portion of yourself with someone else. If this "relationship" should fail, then you have left a part of yourself with someone else. This is why separation can be so difficult. You actually have to destroy a part of yourself and leave it with someone else, and you also bring a bit of someone else with you.
This is what the Bible speaks of when it concludes that "that the two will become one flesh".
Even if you're aren't a Christian, you can't escape this condition, because it's how we were wonderfully made. Meaningless sex only causes destruction. Love when expressed physically with your soulmate can never be duplicated outside the institution of marriage.
2007-05-13 01:43:02 · answer #6 · answered by alboski01 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seirously wait until you get married. I wish that I would have waited. I'm almost 28 and still not married.......I would have still been a virgin..........I STILL wish I would have waited. Guys come and go. Just wait! Don't be dissapointed later on down the road.
2007-05-20 16:34:50 · answer #7 · answered by movingirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly i would just wait till your wedding day. i know so many people, including myself, that wish they would have waited until that day. once you start its very hard to stop. and you will be forever connected to that person for the rest of your life. you'll always remember them and what you felt with them. i would love to be able to go back and changed decisions i made in my past. i wish that i could say that the person i marry is the only person i will have had sex with, but he won't be. if you wait till your wedding day you'll have nothing to compare sex to. you'll know only what you share with that person and it will be the best sex because it will be the only sex you've ever had. hold out hunny, it will be worth it. i hope this helps.
2007-05-20 13:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by angela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you should do as the BIBLE say since it is always right wait until marriage if he loves you enough to say he will spend the rest of his life with you then you can love him enough to give away your hand in marriage and your special gift that God gave you WAIT UNTIL MARRIAGE...and this isn't a silly response ya heard...SMILE
2007-05-13 01:33:36 · answer #9 · answered by Ablebaby 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Good for you,you obviously respect yourself too,and your body, in today's world- you are so special- and it proves you don't need Sex to have a good relationship. How long should you wait???? well how about."until you are married?" and good luck- you respect yourself--and that's a great thing in life. x x
2007-05-20 10:13:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋