Is it better to live with someone that makes you unhappy. OR is it better to live alone and be unhappy??

Answer 1

Think I know what you mean,sometimes even though you might not be getting too much joy from being with someone you may have experienced a lack of success finding a happy alternative , so anything with someone is better than nothing with no-one.Don't you hate it? Unfortunately ,you have to ditch the old to make way for the new ,difficult but true ,good luck

Answer 2

There really isn't any problem, unless by chance you'd prefer a living situation where you are happy. But, I suppose if you are only considering those two alternatives, then live with someone who makes you unhappy. Why pay ALL the rent and bills- and be unhappy, when you can split expenses- and be unhappy. You still end up unhappy, but you're unhappy cheaper. Or, you might explore some living arrangement and relationship that lets you enjoy life and be happy. It ain't rocket science, and lots of us manage. But, it's up to each of us to find it for ourselves. Good luck.

Answer 3

Wow, great question, Debbie. Really makes a person think...

Since you don't say whether you are in relationship where you are unhappy, I will not try and give you any advice about that. I think you are asking this question to see what others would do.

I've lived alone Debbie and it was the most miserable time of my life. Not having someone to share your day with, is so lonely. BUT...I did learn, during my time alone; there is only ONE person that can make me happy, and that's ME. So in answer to your question, I CAN live alone, even though I might be unhappy about it. When I am able to make MYSELF happy, then I know I am ready to SHARE my life with someone else...

Again, great question...and trust me, I do not say that to win any "best answer" category. To show you that I speak from the heart, please vote for another answer, besides mine. You have had alot of other great responses. Mine is just an opinion..

Answer 4

If your unhappy, just think how misrable your making the other person. Live alone, save the world from your miserey, dont make anyone else unhappy.
You could get a dog/cat and sit around and stare at eachother in depression or hide in your closet and dont come out!

Answer 5

You cannot rely on someone else for happiness it does come from within you and it is not easy to make yourself feel happy. But it can be done.

However if someone else is making you unhappy don't stay with them just because you do not want to be alone.

I am not happy a lot of the time and I live alone, but it is better than living with my ex husband who made me so emotionally unhappy.

I might add the other answers on here are very, very good. Shows how people understand other people's feelings.

Answer 6

To live with another who makes you unhappy is to self-impose a jail sentence, and you do not want to do that. There is a time when we all need to be alone to grow, to find, to become strong. It is a time of change and does not have to be an unhappy time unless you create another self-sentence to unhappiness. don't be afraid of living alone, if that is what you truly need, and it sounds like it is. The things you need for happiness will come, but maybe not on your timetable.

Answer 7

I'd move out from the person who is making me unhappy,if the situation could not be fixed i.e u have tried everything to mend it.
Then perhaps go solo,or move in with a friend or family member.If you go solo,keep in contact with those close to u,or call a free counselling line or ask at ur local church or community centre for helpful advice on phone numbers to contact for support.
Then forget about all the negatives in ur life or at least put them to the back to a less prominate position in ur thoughts,and concentrate on the small parts of ur life you appreciate,eg taking ur dog for a walk,talking to a friend or family,eating a mean lasagna or whatever u like.
And this will plant more seeds of positive energy into your soul.And over time the positive will wipe out the negative thoughts.
Appreciate and focus on the good things whenever ur unhappy.And even when ur normal.Do this every morning and before you sleep.Even pray if u believe in god.
And you will be happier,as the positive seeds will grow,and you will have a lush garden growing inside of you.
And lets even say a Happy tree.
You can then give the ripe fruits to others out there,and they will appreciate you also.
Just remember you get what you give,give out positive vibrations,and you will attract the same in return.
Also only you can decide to be positive and happy.Not other people.Best wishes,im sure you'll do great! :)

Answer 8

Look at it this way your living with someone and your unhappy but if your living alone you can find someone to make you happy pretty hard to do that when your living with someone......

Answer 9

I wish I could say something without being as negative.. but sometimes I feel exactly like you said you did. I havent been in a relationship either and I wonder if I ever would be and thats freaky, plus I worry about how I will be financially when I would buy my own house and car and do taxes and all that good stuff.. Its just overwhelming to me since I would be out of high school soon.. but you could go to a councelor, chances are they would prescribe something, they almost always do. My friend isnt ADD but they gave her aderol to concentrate better in school. And Im sure youll find someone. And another thing, you have to be alive to find that someone. I want to die sometimes but what if the day after I did, the person I wouldve marry started going to my school? Crazy, but you never know. Thats what keeps me alive, thinking something great would happen after I died. It kills me.

Answer 10

It is better to figure out what it takes to make you happy, go after it. Then, if you get it you can be happy. And if you don't, learn from it and keep trying. But is is not good to be with someone who makes your unhappiness worse.