Ok, here's the situation.Me and myhusband have been together for 12 years. We are both in our thirties. We love each other deeply and are loyal to one another.Of course we get angry at each other, but its just normal married stuff.
Here is the problem SEX. I just had a baby a couple of months ago, we didnt have sex while I was pregnant, and still have not since. Why is he not going out of his mind? The whole pregnancy thing turns him off big time, he's just weird like that, so that's why we didnt have sex while I was pregnant, besides I wasnt too intrested in it either, I didnt feel real hot.My sex drive is alittle low, I take antidepressants, its a side effect, but I still want to have sex.His sex drive seems too low for his age.Don't suggest he's gay, there is nothing gay about him. And I'm pretty good looking, even after having the baby....Although I do got some more pregnancy weight to drop yet.But its not like I'm a turn off....What is wrong?
2007-05-13 00:55:39 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
maybe I have made it too much of an issue, I bring it up alot.He says he's to stressed and tired from work, to care much about sex.He does work nearly 65-70 hours a week (including drive time).I joke about it alot, you know say about cobwebs growing, that sort of thing.I bring it up maybe too much and have put alot of preasure on him?
2007-05-13 01:34:41 · update #1
You ask if this is "abnormal." Of course not. I am sure that there are many of us that have been in your situation, including me. It really is true when they say that "having a baby, changes alot of things."
I agree with the answers that say to give it some time. Your husband certainly DOES work alot of hours. No wonder the poor man is tried.
I do think you and your husband should sit down together and have a much needed talk. You should definitely plan a "night out on the town," away from the little one and it's pressures.
I believe that alittle time and patience, will see you all back in the sack, so to speak; very soon. Having a baby AND with your husband's work schedule, is alot of pressure on BOTH of you. As you say, "we love each other deeply." I personally do not think you two are any different than so many other couples. This too shall pass....be patient.
Congrads on the new "wee-one." And Happy Mother's Day to you. The same to all the other Mother's, that have answered here....
2007-05-13 02:04:46 · answer #1 · answered by HeatherM 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you are acting normal.
Sex drive is not a constant.
However, I take issue with inclusion of any substance (antidepressants, etc.), which could lead to trouble down the road.
I am a naturalist by heart, and only use natural ingredients in everything concerning my life habits.
All that hoopla about Viagra and copycats is pure bunk.
Your body adjusts to changes, so go with the flow, and let your bodies tell you want they want.
Nothing forced is worth it.
I have heard of people who needed all kinds of help just to produce a baby, and they spend lots of money for idiotic treatments that don't make sense.
I would suggest more discussion among yourselves, and the sex will come back in time. Just stay in love. (Sounds easy, but you'd be surprised how many break apart over something like this).
2007-05-13 01:03:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of men have trouble having sex during a womans pregnancy and for a while afterwards... i know i couldn't..
he could be suffering with a form of post-natal depression... :D
2007-05-13 01:01:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him. Why not try to initiate sex? He is your husband. You can grab his **** and get him going. Offer your breasts. Men are visual. We like to see the goodies. This gets us going. Being touched is good too.
2007-05-13 01:24:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it...the pregnancy turned him off. Be patient and give him some time to come around.
2007-05-13 00:59:02 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
*Gasp* You by no means instructed me Celine used to be your development! Oh good. I bet each time I spilt gravey on her, I used to be particularly spilling it on you. <--- reveals this truth surprisingly erotic.
2016-09-05 18:38:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. Seduce him and show him that you are now ready for SEX.
2007-05-13 01:00:14 · answer #7 · answered by exo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him, maybe go to counseling. Perhaps he is masturbating or having an affair.
2007-05-13 00:58:20 · answer #8 · answered by Rocky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him!
how else are you going to know?
if you LOVE each other, you should be able to talk
2007-05-13 00:59:10 · answer #9 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it doesn't cross his mind. So make it cross his mind!
2007-05-13 00:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by kitty_and_meander 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋