he asks his kids to get something for their mom on mother's day..even if they were divorced for 6 years and she is married now.
2007-05-13 00:34:28 · 13 answers · asked by missy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe he's just encouraging a healthy relationship between his children and their mother. Be grateful and don't read more into it than is really there.
2007-05-13 00:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by la buena bruja 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not always about still being in love. it's about respecting someone who you once shared time with in a loving way. just because they are no longer married and she has found someone else does not mean there isn't a mutual love and understanding based on respect. I think it's very considerate he reminds the kids to get her something, that's common curteousy from a dad. I'm sure she reminds them about fathers day (well lets hope she practices the same consideration) that he does. he may still love her she is the mother of their children and they did once upon a time love each other, but loving and being in love are two different things. so try not to figure it out just accept that there is a bond there that will never break. feelings are very important and they need respecting regardless of whether they may hurt some people or cause worry.
2007-05-13 00:45:32 · answer #2 · answered by clarissa l 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with the ex-husband reminding the children to remember their mother on Mother's Day! Sometimes when the children are young and the parent's are divorced, the father of the children willa actually purchase the card and a gift for the young children to give to their Mother. I think what this father is doing is very commendable.
Remeber this man will be in the children's lives forever and you need to look ahead in life for when these children marry and have children of their own.
2007-05-13 00:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by Patty G 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the ex-wife is the mother of his children I say "DUH" of course he would think of the mother of his kids on Mother's Day! He wants to make sure his kids honor their Mom and is grateful that she made him a father. There is nothing wrong and everything right with this. He should do all he can to let her know he appreciates her on this special day. I think the new husband must be childishly jealous for this question to have been asked in the first place. If he has a first wife and she is the mother of his kids maybe he ought to follow his wife's first husbands lead!!!!
2007-05-13 00:49:45 · answer #4 · answered by boogersmama 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to look closer at the question you asked. It is very clear for us to see that the answer is obviously yes. He is teaching them to respect their mother and to show appreciation for her. Who would'nt want to instill that in their children. Why does it bother you That is the real question. It is easy to be jealous of the first wife and I think you might have some jealousy issues.
2007-05-13 01:59:08 · answer #5 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that x's shouldn't be exchanging anything except niceties. If one of the x's have remarried, and if there are no children involved, then there is nothing to be said. If there are under aged children involved, the children can be encouraged to do something for the parent, but I don't think anything personal should be coming from one x to another.
2007-05-13 01:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probably wants his kids to grow up peacefully and not with a negative vibe between his family and his ex. It can effect the kids life if there is problems between parents, so he probably wants the best for them. He also probably misses her a bit, obviously. There's nothing to worry about :)
2007-05-13 01:01:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No matter what happened between them, she is still the mother of his children. Without her, he wouldn't have the kids that he does. And no, it doesn't mean that he's still in love with her.
2007-05-13 00:44:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He respects the mother of his children.... Something wrong with that? He DID marry her, have sex with her, make babies with her... You'd rather he be so shallow that he can just toss all that aside and never show her respect?
2007-05-13 02:29:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is just telling the kids to get something for their mom --- no, he doesn't still love them -- hes helping the kids out- as he would remind them about soccer practice or what not --- just reminding the kids - nothing wrong w/ that- I do the same thing for my ex husband-- I tell them to make sure they say happy birthday etc -- its not love -- its helping the kids out- not her.
2007-05-13 05:07:54 · answer #10 · answered by ★★★ Katharine ♥♥♥♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋