my poor husband has had to humor me with sex a couple times now, trying to get some labor going... I feel awkward because I'm really not into it. He says it still feels good to him but it's hard to tell if he's only saying that for the sake of my feelings. Any suggestions on how to make it a little more fun for him and a lot more fun for me?
2007-05-11 19:43:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would suggest doing something that completely relaxes you before you engage in sex. Meditation or something. Everyone is different. I just know that if I am relaxed it is easier for me to enjoy intercourse.
2007-05-11 22:01:46 · answer #1 · answered by moongoddess209 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men say that a woman feels tighter during pregnancy, and most men enjoy sex anytime with someone they love. Trust me, he isnt saying it for the sake of your feelings.
It can help bring on labor, just try not to have rough sex, be gentle :)
I had sex with my husband up to the last minute, the night before i went into labor. Though i must admit it was less pleasureable at that time. We tried doing it outside :) the "danger" made it more interesting. though i would be careful where u do that as it is illegal. We live near the country :)
Good luck with urnew baby
2007-05-12 04:24:15 · answer #2 · answered by selahseei 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably have the "beached whale" feeling, I know I do (I'm at 33 weeks with my third baby). Find a position that is comfortable for you to lay in for awhile (while he works on foreplay). Tell him to get busy...lol. Try different positions (my favorite is "doggy-style" right now, there's no pressure on my abdomen). Don't underestimate the power of visuals, look at some adult videos or magazines etc. Talk about sex for a while before you start, talk about fantasies, toys etc. Use toys if you want to. Just don't worry about it, it may not jump-start labor, but you surely won't be able to do it for another six weeks once labor starts so have fun with it.
2007-05-12 02:53:09 · answer #3 · answered by Momofthreeboys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Foreplay. Change of scenery. A warm bath, the living room, a mirror (well, if you enjoy your pregnant body). Extra use of hands. Do your Kegels till you can crush things. Admit that sex at 40 weeks is divinely awful and laugh it off.
I don't believe sex really helps induce labor, though it might help ripen your cervix and give you nonlabor contractions.
2007-05-12 02:55:49 · answer #4 · answered by zilmag 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I honestly think you two should get some rest before the baby comes; but since you are asking us, I think you should use another part of your body to please him (I hope you get my drift). While you are doing that to him, you might feel perfectly aroused just by him caressing you in certain places. Remember, sex doesn't always mean direct intercourse. Sometimes, just rubbing in certain areas such as the small of your back, the back of the neck even just around your lips can be the best sex ever. It's more like forplay, but it still does the trick at 40 weeks.
Good luck and happy trying!
2007-05-12 02:50:57 · answer #5 · answered by liz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how big you are, but I could still wear a couple of my pieces of lingerie, which hid the pregnancy a bit from my significant other and that seemed to help, because he was the one not into sex. if you aren't that into it it may not work, i think part of sex pushing you into labor is having an "O"
try bowling it worked for me and a couple of other people
2007-05-12 02:51:06 · answer #6 · answered by maxtonamvl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's anything that's going to help with making it more fun for you, sorry- but I really do think that walking put me into labor, so I'd reccomend that- I walked laps & laps & laps at our rec center, and was in labor 8 hours later... and I was at 38 weeks. Who knows, it's probably just going to happen when it's going to happen, don't torture yourself with the awkward sex. Good luck, maybe you'll have him/her right on Mother's Day... :)
2007-05-12 02:52:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
doing it "doggy style" (sorry i couldnt come up with a better way of saying it) is more comfortable for you.. put some pillows underneath you and it will be a little better. At this point though, honey, its not going to be all that fun for you. He'll enjoy himself no matter what! lol
2007-05-12 02:49:24 · answer #8 · answered by renai0718 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any sex is fun for males!!! But at 40 weeks i doubt there is anything you can do to make it fun 4 u!
2007-05-12 02:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by ce_ben1 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i know where your coming from lol i made my husband have sex with me in the bathroom at the hospital to try to avoid being induced, not comfortable at all and didnt work either, sorry.
2007-05-12 05:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by desiree g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋