I mean Im a mommy of 6 and I am busy but I dont have any real friends. Not a whole lot of adult interaction. It gets real lonely at times.
2007-05-11 18:37:15 · 13 answers · asked by THE mommy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
My husband is gone from sun up to sun down 6 days a week. I cant talk fast enough when he gets in the door. I kinda feel worse for him. He has to put up with my yakkity yak yak that he probably has no interest in anyway.
2007-05-11 18:48:23 · update #1
You need some adult friends for your own sanity. Go out and try to find some time for you to meet new people.
2007-05-11 18:40:59 · answer #1 · answered by Karen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not married and have no children of my own, but I do not have many friends. I think sometimes it its o.k, but lately I am trying to make more friends. I try to eat in the cafeteria and not stay in my space. Lately I have been feeling like I need to reach out so I am trying. I know in your case it must be even harder, but maybe you could try by networking with other moms out in your area. I am sure they must be lonely to. I would certainly find it helpful to talk to a mommy of six. I mean not having any friends is alright, but it does help to have them. They can truly make a difference.
2007-05-12 01:45:31 · answer #2 · answered by Mariposa13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.. Sometimes that's life but you should have someone to talk to other than your husband, be it a sister or brother on the phone or in person, or a parent of one of your children's friends.. It's good to have someone to talk to that's not your significant other. Perhaps you could get your children involved in Girls Scouts if you have any girls and you could make some friends there? There's always online friends too!
2007-05-12 02:15:40 · answer #3 · answered by regina 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not healthy, you need your own time, time to be free and interact with people of your own age. While your spouse should be your best friend, everyone needs someone to tell their secrets to or talk in confidence. Talk about just general stuff and expand their social skills.
Even Internet friends are better than no friends at all.
2007-05-12 01:45:47 · answer #4 · answered by oldcorps1947 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know it it's healthy (everyone needs someone to talk to and spend time with, someone besides their lover), but I don't think it's unusual. With so many kids, you're bound to have little time for yourself, much less any time to make and keep friendships; and I know from looking around that lots of mothers are like you, because they are so wrapped up in caring for their children (not that that is a bad thing, either).
My mother has alway regretted not having any friends. I don't know if it was because she was busy with me and my brother, but she had a similar situation to yours, and I myself (though I'm not a mother) went through a number of years with no friends. No matter the reason why you don't have friends, I think it would be good if you tried to reach other people with similar circumstances to yours, maybe other local mothers or your childrens' friends' parents, if that's not too cliche? We all need someone to depend on, or just have fun with!
2007-05-12 01:46:58 · answer #5 · answered by Stephano 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya! At this time in my life I have no g'f's. It does get lonely but my husband is my best friend. I have learned that general info is okay to share with friends but not any problems with your children or spouse. I had a friend I loved to death but she hated my husband (we are now divorced). I felt in the middle everytime something was said between them.
2007-05-12 01:43:46 · answer #6 · answered by Connie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hear you sister!! The only people i converse with are people at work, and i don't like them most of the time. But i work with what i have. I would set aside one day a week to go somewhere by yourself. I know it might sound difficult, but for your own sanity, you have to do something.
2007-05-12 01:42:43 · answer #7 · answered by dana b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loneliness is not good for anyone. Make some adult friends that you will be able to trust and to confide in. The children will grow up and make their own friends and eventually have their own lives. You must have one too. Best wishes to you.
2007-05-12 01:42:20 · answer #8 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you have 6 kids man thats kid of a good reason not to have frinds well, it's not abnormal or normal. ur busy... but you need time to your self becasue some people just explde my aunt just had her 8th kid and shes 34 and she has tons of friends and they all help her with the kids.
2007-05-12 02:22:24 · answer #9 · answered by ARCE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll find if you are a friend to someone, you'll have friends. When my kids were young and I was in a new town, I made time for two hours a week voluntering for elderly and I made many friends.
2007-05-12 01:42:08 · answer #10 · answered by kim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋