guys answer please....doing research for when my kids get older?

Question

how many of yous have been bullied when you were in school?? i was never bullied but i'm a girl and my husband and my brother and every guy i talk to was. so the question is were you bullied and was it a long or short time ... or were you the bully?

Answer 1

I think every guy has had to deal with one bully sometime in his life. In my case I had enough of it and slugged him right in the nose. I am not suggesting that was or is the best way to handle it, but he stopped bothering me from that point on and by the time we were in high school I was 6' and he was 5'5" and a little runt and i kinda felt bad that he was the one that was picked on by other guys.

Answer 2

When I was a kid we moved around a lot.
I went to a different school every year until High School.
I didn't bully anyone nor did I get picked on.

My Husband was never bullied. In Fact he always took up for the kids that was getting picked on. That was and still is something my Husband cant stand.

Neither of my children was picked on in school.
My daughter died in 1990
My son had his moments as far as being teased for being a little over weight and believe it or not some kids would get mad at him and tease him about his sister dieing..

I had taught my son to stand up for himself.
He is very head strong and never picked fights.

Now my son has a son, and he was born with Down Syndrome. My grandson will be 3 years old next month.
He is very High ends Down Syndrome. But I suspect he will go thru some if not a lot of crap in years to come.

Answer 3

Every guy was bullied at one point or another because there's someone always bigger than you.

I was bullied for a short time, real short, when it happened, I went outside and found the biggest stick I could find and came back in with tears in my eyes looking for him, everybody held me back, and I never had a problem again.

Answer 4

Every guy you talk to was bullied? WOW I was the smallest boy in my class and I can say I was never bullied. Who are your friends? Bullies go after the weak spirited souls that choose to cower when adversity strikes. Granted I think things in the schools tend to be much more adversarial than it was when I was growing up? Though at times I believe that another individual is attempting to make fun or talk down to me I always ignore them, a bully is seeking a response! If he/she cant get it they go to the next person. Also being tough was part of my upbringing my parents seemed to teach that you dont back down to anyone! We live in a heartless world where the concept of fighting fire with fire is needed. This self esteem thing is nice in a foo foo kind of way but In a real sense there are alot of mean and hateful people out there that will never recognize efforts made. Second place is the first loser sort of attitiude.. (I am not saying that is right) Eliminating being bullied has alot to do with how one carries oneself. Be bold!!! Communicate to your children that they come from a family of strong people. When they slouch in there seat tell them to sit up because that is what our family does. When they stand tell them to put there shoulders back with their head held high let them know that in your family we are a force to be dealt with.... But strive to keep this attitude so that your children are not arrogant.... Let them know to stand by the side of those that are bullied... In the book the art of war... Its states that most battles are never fought in that they are won through intimidation.... Granted we wouldnt want to go around intimidating; but head held high walking with a purpose sends a message of DONT MESS WITH ME!!!

Answer 5

I was bullied at various times in elementary school, and I was teased mercilessly in high school. By my junior year, I had very low self-esteem indeed. I despaired of life itself at one point. A close friendship is the only thing that turned it around during my senior year.

Answer 6

It will last as long as your child allows it.