You have fraternal twins,1 female,1 male.How will you differ in the way you raise them?

Answer 1

I'd give them each a sense of individual identity, which would acknowledge a difference in gender and allow them to choose gender-specific clothing, if they desire, and use gender-specific public restrooms. Other than that, it would be pretty much the same. We'd read lots of books, build with legos, draw and paint, play musical instruments, bake cookies, go hiking and camping, etc.

Peer influence, I think, would have an effect on some of the activities they chose to participate in, and those choices may mirror traditional gender roles as proscribed by the outside world. Kids have an innate desire to "fit in" and thus, their choices would naturally address that need for belonging. I'm OK with that, because no matter what I do in my home, at some point, my children will be exposed to/influenced by the outside world. I would hope that my children would internalize the values I teach them, but as independent beings, they are ultimately free to make their own choices.

Answer 2

I would raise one to be my daughter and the other to be my son. Many would say that you should not make any gender preferences so as to not lead the child in any way. However what a great deal of people forget is that everyone has children for different reasons. My wife and I chose to have children to raise as we believe is proper. I am sure the people who are attempting to avoid influencing their childs gender preference mean well, but I have a question.

Why would anyone choose to have a child and then not attempt to influence its behavior in any way. Just your presence alone is influence. Unless you plan on leaving the child with care providers then it is really someone else raising your child and your just paying for and playing with it occasionally.

If a parent doesn't feel the right to influence a childs gender choice and how they should behave in life, then who should and where will the child get their directions for life?

If you can't influence your childs gender choice then what can you truly influence ever without interfering... just by providing choices or not providing choice you are influencing and interfering

Answer 3

I would raise them both the same their are some things that I will have to do to in order to keep them normal like teach the the boy to pee standing up, put him in pants vs a dress (unless I put him in kilts or togas) and teach him respect for women. I would have to install some things in both children such as When mama ain't happy no bobies happy.

Answer 4

I will raise them both to be independent thinkers and not to conform to some arbitrary standard of femininity or masculinity. I will keep all gender-specific activities out of my home. I will teach them early on about how important gender equality is. I will teach that, if they decide to marry, they must treat their spouses as nothing less than partners. And I will definitely bring them over to play with the children of my feminist friends.

But as you probably know, this is in some alternate universe in which I want children.

Answer 5

I would raise one to be a man and one to be a woman. The ancients knew this is how best to raise children. This from Kahlil Gibran.
"Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of life's longing for itself.
They come through you, but not from you.
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give then your love, but not your thoughts.
For they have there own thoughts.
You may house their bodies, but not there souls.
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you can not visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday. "
Kahil Gibran
Words that need to be remembered in the West, especially when we think our children are merely downloads of our beliefs and desires.

Answer 6

There should be no difference unless one of them has a bigger temper or more challenging personality.

Twins are on different than other siblings who are born in to the familly.

Answer 7

It'd be so cute if i could name them Viola and Sebastian. my sincerest adoration for anyone who gets this reference.

I would start in a gender neutral approach, and see how interested they may be in drawing, finger paints, board games and music. sports, hiking, camping/outdoor activity and exercise are fine too, and it's not just for boys. body consciousness, health, physical activity and an appreciation of nature are all good things for anyone.

should they be inclined to choose different paths, so be it. it is my job to make sure that they know such choices are available, possible and acceptable.

i don't own their lives. i want to love them not just because they are my kids, but because of the friendship formed between us.