we used to laugh and joke around a lot, and have great conversations. but anyway she basically just dropped me so i stopped trying and let our friendship fade away.. now when she talks to me (we still have classes together) it's like i don't have anything to say back really. it's a bit sad because we used to get on quite well. have you experienced this with a friend before?
2007-05-11 16:56:50 · 15 answers · asked by regina 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think just about everyone has this experience sometime in their life. She moved on without feeling any loss and you felt the loss. People can outgrow each other, or change and their friendship needs change. If you have nothing to say back then just dont say anything. You arent required to entertain her just because she is in the mood to talk.
2007-05-11 17:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, yes. High school I had a few friends that I grew up with. But I played a lot of sports and made friends with those guys and we got real close. Because of this, my friendship with my old friends faded, although there were never hard feelings and we can still hang out when everyone is home from college.
It happens to a lot of people especially in High School and College. Anyone that goes away to college will probably have 100 new friends during their first year. Same thing happens where some high school friends get left back for college friends.
It's an unfortunate part of life I guess.
2007-05-11 17:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you used to be best friends, you should of been comfortable enough with her to ask her at the time what happened? Ask her what you did that made her stop talking to you as friends. You will never know if you don't ask, and everyone can always use more friends. I have let friendships go, but that was my choice, I just don't like keeping up with people, calling them and feeling like I have to go places with them I don't really want to so I fade away. But I'd say talk to her.
2007-05-11 17:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people just grow apart. If there's nothing there, then don't force it. Smile and say hello, and listen when she talks, but if you have nothing to say, then there's not much you can do about it. Whatever you do, don't fall into the gossip trap. I've seen a lot of girls gossip and talk about other people just because they have nothing better to talk about. It's real easy to fall into, so be careful.
Once you graduate, about 90% of the people you are friends with in grammar school and high school you'll probably never see or talk to again. So I wouldn't worry to much. If you really value the friendship and want to get things back to normal, I suggest having a heart to heart with her, and tell her how you feel about what she did to you. Sometimes pent up anger can cause us to be passive aggressive with our friends. So be verbal and assertive, and let her know that your upset with her (without being insulting) But if the friendship is dead, there really isn't too much you can do to get it back. Go your separate ways, and learn from this experience.
2007-05-11 17:11:07 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ BuffaloGirl ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When we are young, we don't realize that some friendships, although very intense for a time, fade. We also don't realize that friendships can change over time. (Example: a close friendship can evolve into a casual one or even an acquaintanceship.)
My guess is that this particular friendship of yours has just evolved into another form of friendship or an acquaintanceship -- and it is difficult for you to accept that at t his point in your life.
My overall advice is to be still friendly with the girl but to concentrate your time and energy on developing other friendships.
Good luck dear.
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2016-11-27 20:08:54 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have times in my life when I get so busy with things that I forget about my friends among other things. I don't do it intentionally. Maybe this is her problem? Call her! Great friendships are hard to come by. Let her know that you wanna hang out sometime.
2007-05-11 17:04:54 · answer #7 · answered by Alexis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've experienced this before. You feel hurt, confused and let down. It's not your fault. People change. It's probably more common than you realize. You can be polite to her, but be open and available for new friendships with new people.
2007-05-11 17:16:05 · answer #8 · answered by Georgie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she misses your friendship too. Give it a chance and be nice, maybe you can be great friends again. If you feel as though your tastes are different, try a few new things and show her a few new ones too.
2007-05-11 17:00:53 · answer #9 · answered by J S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of my close friends in school eventually ended like this, some sooner, some later. It's a part of life that people grow and change and friends will come in and out of your life. Don't feel guilty, it's perfectly normal.
2007-05-11 17:00:46 · answer #10 · answered by BAnne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋