Mother's day question, is your mother gone? how do you cope?

Answer 1

This is the first Mother's Day without my Mom. I'm not sure I know how to cope. I have 4 boys and I figure they'll take me out and keep my mind off things. I miss my Mom and wish she was here. She is still here in my heart. =(

Answer 2

Yes, my mother died 14 years ago. My wife was pregnant at the time and my youngest daughter was born a month after Mom died. My other daugther was just an infant so neither remember their grandmother.

It was hard the first couple of years. Sometimes I would pick up the phone and her number would pop into my head (for no particular reason). Later I would tell my kids funny stories about my mother. Sort of a funny story: on Mother's Day for a few years in a row after she died I'd have some unusual experience with a bird. One year a cockatiel (someone's escaped pet bird) was perched on a stone wall near my car... the next year a hawk swooped down into my back yard looking for something... little things like that would make me wonder whether it was a little message from her somewhere/somehow.

She lives on in my memory and in my conversations with family. I hope you have a nice weekend... my condolences if you have lost your mother.

Answer 3

Questions like this make me sad about lost love ones. But be Thankful you had someone like that you miss--some never had or have anyone. And yes I have lost some I loved.

If you lost someone --my condolences. It is not wrong to miss someone--just don't let it control your life


Try to dwell on the positive (you can't dwell on both the positive and negative at the same time). Give what you can to those you love or love you now before they or you are gone. Don't waste precious time on others who you know are not worth it in the long run--five and ten cents friends are free and plentiful. And misery is not the best company in the long run. Do something good for someone you know truly cares before it is too late--you will find this will help you. Be Thankful for what you do have.The world has a lot to offer. Your lost love would want you to live and enjoy life--and find something that really makes you happy.
And my best wishes to you that you find what you really need to cope.

Answer 4

You just have to remember all the happy times with your Mum & do this for a while (not forever as you need to let go in time) light a little candle or put a rose head in a pretty little bowl of water on Mothers day for your Mum it may help you feel better but dont get all depressed on mothers day

Answer 5

Yes, this is the second Mother's Day without my mom. Last year my sister and my dad and I had a barbeque at our house in her memory on Mother's Day. But since then, my dad has died also, and my relationship with my sister has deteriorated completely, so we are each on our own.

There is no easy way to cope with something like this. All I can do is be glad that she isn't suffering anymore (she had cancer) and make sure I keep her in my thoughts every day.

Answer 6

I am sure that it is not easy to face loss on day's designed to celebrate and force memory of that person. Yesterday a people spoke to my Mother about missing a loved one and the grief and stuckness that is associated. She recommended that the person spreads the word that we have to detach from the body and attach to the spirit. The person is there in the latter place for solice and strengh. I made me think that her believe keeps her from constant sorrow. When I began to think deeper about it our sadness has something to do with the anger that we have at the person for changing form or not being what we want or giving what they always gave to us. This has to be worked out because we are not owed that life that we imagine to be ours. The person is living or not living based on their path. We can not work from the above selfishness and grow, instead we have to room to respect their choice of life and death.

Answer 7

Yes, my Mother has been gone for many years but I THINK of her every day & especially on Mother's Day. There are alot of lonely older ladies out there who would LOVE to have someone celebrate Mother's Day with them! Sometimes Mothers lose kids too... it is especially tough for them to have outlived them. Is anyone in your neighborhood fitting any of these categories? You have 2 days to do something special for HER... you'll love it & your own Mother will smile down on you from Heaven. It gets easier when you share.

Answer 8

My mom left us (7 kids) when I was still young (14 years old) and I've missed her ever since (1978).

Quite a trick to getting on with life without someone helping you through it: but the point is you know it's going to happen sooner or later and you go on with what you've got to do.

Good little trick I learnt from a master is:

"Look around here and find something that doesn't remind you of ...."

Answer 9

my mother is still alive but i barley see her
it must be hard for people not to have a mom
i couldn't imagine
i have a friend who doesn't have a mom it is defiantly hard on her.
she copes by thinking about good things and times about her mother
not thinking about the fact that she is gone
i've talked with her about it before.

Answer 10

Mine was older than average and died 37 years ago.
I have taken other people's mothers out to dinner or given gifts in some cases (like older woman at place I work.)
Go to nursing home and visit people who don't have kids or whose kids don't show up.