im a 26 year old female. i just got divorced out of a 8 year marrige. anyway this girl tanya i known since high school has been marreid 8 years. she wont talk on the phone unless her husband is at school or work or something. so i called and she was like " Oh david just left " i said " Oh cool perfect timing " ( meaning like hey now we can talk ) and she was like " Just because you had a crappy marriage doesnt mean all ppl do , im happily married il like my husband around " thats not even what i meant , then she goes " Hey can i let u go " as usual.. screwey *****... am i right to be mad should i just put a kabash on the freindship right now ?
2007-05-11 14:09:48 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
i mean tthat she was marreid 2 years NOT 8. im the one that was marreid 8 years. sorry typo
2007-05-11 14:10:18 · update #1
'thanks for the respnsese. she just called i was so mad i said can i let u go i have someone here. she was like " Oh wow whose there " casue she doesnt think i have any freinds or swomething. i sadi " oh someone from work " then real rude i said o " OK bye ! "
2007-05-11 14:32:23 · update #2
Im not going to sound nice on this one. Punch her! Get ghetto on that B I T C H !
2007-05-11 14:15:10 · answer #1 · answered by Arianna S 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like she's tired of hearing about your relationship problems, and then you hit on a truthful nerve with her. Her response is very defensive, almost as if she didn't hear you. And how is she not going to apply the fact that she has operated this way for some time (talking when he's gone)? Clearly she too has relationship problems but is trying to prevent exposure of those feelings. Maybe she's the type to hold her feelings back. I'd say it's not wrong to WANT to slap her but to DO it would be wrong. Maybe feel sorry for her instead because she doesn't get it. I would however feel absolutely compelled to clear up what you meant and just what she meant and has been feeling towards you.
2007-05-11 21:26:44 · answer #2 · answered by LetMeBe 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She wouldn't be considered as a friend if she disrespected you in that way. But there could also be a chance that she is going through something and she took her stress out on you. Maybe by impulse due to the simple comment you made that was misunderstood.
Oh yeah, and about the slapping part, theres no need to get physical. What she said doesn't deserve your energy, you should choose to focus your positive energy towards yourself.
2007-05-11 21:19:26 · answer #3 · answered by tw_tell 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I would have felt very insulted. She sounds like a self-righteous little twit! She got pretty defensive as soon as you mentioned her husband leaving, and didn't THINK before she spoke. I wouldn't bother calling her, I'd wait to see if and when she might call, (who knows she may think she's better than you because SHE"S married and you're NOT) and I would tell her, her comment was very rude and explain why you thought it was a good time to talk. If she doesn't apologize, I'd say "Have a nice life, you insensitive snob!".
2007-05-11 21:30:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sure you're right to be mad. But you have to realize, she's probably not as happy as she acts. It's very strange for someone to not talk just because their spouse is home. I don't know what the issue is, but there's something there she's not admitting to yet.
If you value this friendship, just remember that she's going to be defensive about her relationship and move forward from there.
2007-05-11 21:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by rohak1212 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think u should just forget about it really.i mean she took it way out of line that went to a place u didnt even mean to go.but i just think u should forget about her or stay away from her for a while....cux she musta had her feelings inside sayin that to her and she let too much out.u kno like when ur mad and u say stuff u wouldnt mean to say but u kinda would cux thats how u feel at the moment.or maybe u should just like say thats not wat u meant when u said that.just xplain that u just wanted to talk to her and she kinda took it to a personal level that u didnt want to go on
2007-05-11 21:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I understand exactly how you feel cause that is real messed up. But it is not worth it babygirl cause I am pretty sure that you have better things to do or worry about other than that bull, ok.
2007-05-11 21:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would be mad. but u can take a day outta your busy schedule and sit down and talk to her. Tell her your imput on what she said to u. And tell her that u didn't appreciate what she did.
2007-05-11 21:16:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you do this don't call her for 5 days or call her when her husband is at home.
2007-05-11 21:36:57 · answer #9 · answered by (cici) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur right to be mad, but nvr physically attack someone
2007-05-11 21:15:12 · answer #10 · answered by Darkendeavor3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋