Why is life so damn hard?

Question

I am a good person, a good daughter and a good sister...my family is the greatest family in the world. I feel loved and taken cared of, but inside I'm screaming for someone to help me and console me. I stutter and this has made life for me really difficult. So difficult that when I was in my teens I actually thought of suicide. My years in middle school and high school were the worst years of my life. I'm 21 now but I still feel the same way I felt back then. I can't seem to let go of the past and stop feeling sorry for myself. I always ask GOD why he made me this way. Why did I have to stutter...I mean, if I didn't I would be so much happier. My life would be so different in all aspects: sociallly, emotionally, etc. My life sucks!!! For people it is easy to just say get over it or go to theraphy....but how do I get rid of all the sadness inside me. How do I get rid of all the frustration, hopelessness and anger. I went to speech theraphy once and it didn't make things better.

I'm in college now and the career I want to pursue scares me because I'll have to do a lot of talking. How do I confront my fear? What can I do? I don't want my stuttering to limit my life but so far it has...how do I make it stop? I'm so used to running away from anything that I know will make me confront my fears that I have grown accustom to do this when life gets hard. I want to change but I can't seem to do it by myself. My family doesn't know how I actually feel. I would make my mom suffer and I don't want to cause her pain. Inside I'm dying because i can't tell them and even though they care I know they wont understand. They won't understand....no one will because they and you are not going through this or have to deal with this everyday. My soul aches and my heart bleeds.

Answer 1

I come from a family of stutterers. Yes, there are people like you and people who understand as they have been through the same or worse. The Stuttering Foundation's book "Self Therapy for the Stutterer" was the lifesaver for us. With devotion to working through each step diligently and practice, practice, practice all the relatives overcame stuttering. Only high stress situations bring it back. You can find the book at some public libraries or get your own copy from the Foundation.

Answer 2

you know what's crazy everyone has something about them that they would change, and not want to be born with. But that is what being a human is about. We are all unique and different every last one of us. I have had times when I thought why did God allow this to happen to me. Why did he allow me to be hurt by one person for the majority of my childhood? But, that is a question that I can't answer. I cant answer why that person even thought it was okay to do those things. So what I'm trying to say is we all have a why question about God and other people. But we can only answer our own internal questions. Will I allow myself to break myself? Or will I be what I am and live with it? I have a cousin who has speach problems like the one you may have, but it never has stopped him from dating the most beautiful women I have ever seen. He has an inside confidence that makes him beautiful outwardly. I believe everyone can find that confidence and use it. It may take some time but you can do it! You can reach inside and find that confidence. And hey if you like using computers and writing, perhaps one day you can express yourself in a career through writing. That way you can always get across what you are trying to say. Anyways, you are a beautiful 21 year old. Just now, it's up to you to find that beauty.

Answer 3

heres the deal. i knew a guy in high school who stuttered alot, except for singing. he was a really good singer. he was very popular with the girls. he was not just handsome but the kind of guy any girl would be lucky to have even just as friends. i remember some one asking why he stuttered. his answer was "WHY NOT ME" perhaps you should talk to your friends and family about this whole thing making you depressed. i often think of his words when i ask myself,"why me" i have a spine injury and am not able to work. i hate sitting home. i am sooo not holly homemaker. then i remember "why not me" this friend that i haven't seen in 15 years has taught me that the bad things that happen to good people, happen for a reason that we do not know , but what ever the thing is, it is meant to be. have you seen a neurologist?

Answer 4

You're now an adult. Why not look at this as starting a new life with good family support?

You can try and get some help with your problem and it may never totally go away, but try to figure out when or what causes it to be the worst and try to work with it.

You've heard of Queen Elizabeth of England? Her father King George had the same problem as you and he didn't want to be in the spotlight, but his brother forced him in to it. He coped, he worked around and with his problem, he was a much loved monarch.

Just some food for thought

Answer 5

I am not going to tell you to go to a psychiatrist or anyone in mental health yet. However, I am wondering if you have ever considered or tried a speech therapist? I am in no way saying a speech therapist would help you stop stuttering, but they MAY be able to help you control it. Once you get more control over the stuttering, things just may get better.
Good Luck to you.

Answer 6

hi girl, i can understand your feeling, your pain, your unrelaxed mental status. firstly you should understand you are not alone suffering like this and your problem is not something which cannot be solved at all. it is curable, for that i need to know more about you like
where are you from
whats your name
do you feel irritated often
do you have any bad past
your medical history
do u drink or smoke
are you on any medication
what is the colour you pref fer the most
are veg or non veg
girl, some problems are like a small glass particle the doctor should know its shape and size before removing it or else it will damage very important nerves

don’t look for sweet medicine to cure hard disease

saravana

Answer 7

hi friend..
thats great to know that you are a good person.."good daughter", "good sister"..but didn't tell how best you are on the role playing...is it jus a relation sake or a mutual sharing fo love and affection...no matter how the world turns to you..be clear and honest in playing your part...life is all about living..be truth to ur ownselves...i won't l suggest or advice you so called therapies or counselling..all you need is to share what you have...the heart to love..the kind words with people even they don't know you...make commitments to urselves...might be someone somewhere suffering like u can have a good person being inspirational inspite of same feeling and suffering."listen,enjoy,share,inspire,teach,help,make this in ur mind not as words but as works...no hard the problem is...if it has a solution..even it don't has a solution..threw that aside...keep going..life is all about living...blaming god and people around you won't make difference..your life..u have to suffer and you have to enjoy..thats the attitude..give people what u expect from them as twice as u get.make others happy..live a meaningfull life.afterall everything in the world won't be there as constant.love is life..

Answer 8

Perhaps you simply have the impatience of youth.

Young people seem to lament their uniqueness, incorrectly seeing it as imperfection. As you get older, you will be grateful for the privilege of drawing breath, enjoying a sunny day, etc. to the point where you will be able to say, like portenos, 'no hay problema' no matter what challenges you face.

Everyone has something they'd prefer to change about themselves. If you really would like to avoid stuttering, I suggest you do go to therapy, but also start volunteering where you read or sing to babies, join Toastmasters, and do other things that truly cause you to forget about your own challenges for a while as you get involved in the activity.

Good luck!

Answer 9

Buddha said that this realm is the best realm for attaining enlightenment though. This is because we have enough ease and intelligence to enable us to practice meditation and become enlightened and we ALSO have enough suffering to motivate us to actually do it. In hell the suffering is too intense so it's impossible to practice to attain enlightenment while in hell. And in the heavenly realms most of the beings there are lazy and just enjoy sensual pleasures because there is little to no suffering there so they have little to nothing to motivate them to seek enlightenment. Life here is so hard because of several things: #1 our body which is painful, unclean, needy, and short-lived. #2 our inferior character, we cause ourselves lots of unnecessary psychological suffering by our anger, greed, laziness, impatience, lust, etc.

Answer 10

God made you that way for an reason.Everybody is different in some way or the other.Have faith in the lord and ask him, for he is the only one that can answer that question. the therapy's will try and answer that question and make money off of you but you will not be any better off.So take your question to God!! and God bless you.