i am a college student and my first year i was extremely painfully shy and lonely. i think because i was so alone i grew resentful and uninterested in what the other students were doing. those were the things where i felt i didn't belong so i had no interest in parties and football games
then over time i grew out of my shyness more and more.
i started going to football games, and frat parties and out to bars. my favorite was going out to this one open-bar with my friends.
however over time, this bar and other places i used to go to a lot are becoming more popular among the ppl at my school. i have started to lose interest in going there and in fact when i hear someone saying they aregoing to go there, i get annoyed. if i went there right now it'd be packed with ppl from my school, rather than a variety of clientele.
there are also local bars that are considered the college bars here and i dont want to go there
they are filled with ppl frommy school
everybody knows everyone else
2007-05-11 11:47:42 · 6 answers · asked by erockairheaven 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
so basically i am asking, does this mean that I am anti-social, that i do not like these bars that are popular with ppl here?
(this is also sort of the case with music, for example if a band is SEMI popular, i like them, but then all of a sudden they have a hit single and everyone jumps on the bandwagon, i get annoyed and don't like saying that i like that band anymore.....)
what is this??
2007-05-11 11:50:27 · update #1
also,
how do i NICELY respond when someone asks me if i am going to the bar, when i WANT to say how much i would probably NOT want to go there and how lame i think it is to go there..... i tend to be honest and actually tell the truth
2007-05-11 11:52:25 · update #2
hm, well it sounds like you tend to shy away from things that are trendy, just for the sake of being trendy, and over commercialized. I am like that as well, but if I happen to genuinely like something, I go ahead and enjoy it, if it is the flavor of the month or not.....As for the bars, maybe you need a place to unwind that is "your" place, away from reminders of stress and hard work a school?
2007-05-11 11:56:38 · answer #1 · answered by beatlefan 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's definitely nothing wrong with you, except your shy and like to be yourself. I know what you mean about liking something, especially that it's something that your personally like, and not just because everyone else likes it. Then when it becomes popular, it's not your own thing anymore. Maybe you could try finding something new? Somewhere different to hang out, if you want....or you could give the crowded places a chance.
2007-05-11 19:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by starmist822 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to be conformist, don't want to be one of a herd. Doesn't mean you're anti-social.
EDIT: If you want to respond nicely, just say no without slamming their idea. Maybe say, "I've been there so much I'm kind of tired of it. Want to go to this new place I've found?"
2007-05-11 18:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by TaDa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
babe you have no problem going out, you have a problem being around people at your school for some reason. I don't know why you are letting effect your decision. Do what you like no one is stopping you.
2007-05-11 18:56:00 · answer #4 · answered by WICCA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you have an anxiety disorder crowds of familiar people seem to trigger a reaction see the school counselor
2007-05-11 18:52:51 · answer #5 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called being pretentious.
You're now ready to go to Europe and spend all you time complaining about all the other American tourists.
2007-05-11 18:55:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋