I'm 23 and my mom had decided to file for divorce. I am angry with my Mom because she had already started dating someone before telling me she was filing for divorce and before even telling my Dad she was filing. I have so much anger and I'm not sure if I will get over it on my own. Do you think I should consider therapy? How much would it help?
2007-05-11 10:46:38 · 5 answers · asked by whattodo1 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
i would talk to my mom abought it first and if that doesnt work go to therapy
2007-05-11 10:52:55 · answer #1 · answered by monkeycomandoe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would help you a great deal. My neice's and nephews' have just dealt with their parents divorce, although the oldest is only 18, she said that it had helped her tremendously deal with anger toward her father.
The situation is some different but I still think it would help you channel your anger.
One other thing I might add, your mother may not have used the correct "protocol" but she is the only mother you will ever have on this earth. I know you feel for your dad as well, but you have to seperate your feelings there. You base your judgment on what kind of mother she was and is to you. You know, no one knows what goes on behind closed doors between a couple, and you may not understand that fully until you are married. Your mom doesn't have a "do over" button, once we do something, we pretty much have to live with the consequences. be them, good or bad. And the end result would still be your parents divorce even if the methods were changed. Be strong for your dad, and I know you cant' understand "why" right now, but maybe later on you will .
Dont think that I am telling you to agree with the what she did and how she did it, I'm just saying, obviously she was caught up in something and didn't make the wisest choices, we have all been guilty of that!! So try to focus your anger toward her actions instead of at her person, she is still your mom that loves you very much I'm sure. Good luck, and I am sorry that you are going through this, I had to as well.
2007-05-11 11:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by puzzled 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Therapy, most definitely. But, I assume you have never been married and divorced. Sooooo many women find they aren't married to the man they need. We women mature, men golf and do things with their friends. We women get tired of always having all our fun with girlfriends. Once we had a lover and where has he gone?? So, you might remember something. Do you tell your parents every detail of your life??? NO. So, begin now forgiving your mom for needing her freedom and your father for being a man.
2007-05-11 10:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by dtwladyhawk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i caught my dad cheating on my mom when i was 17 and my mom didnt believe me and kicked me out of the house... i delt with it by just moving on with life. it sucks. youll blame both parents because your able to see outside the box more then they can at their failed relationship. write poems, express yourself in a diary or in song. if you feel like you are going to snap and go looney, then seek help. but if you feel like you are just angry, there are ways to relieve it. work out to get the anger out. hang out with friends and have "you time" to make yourself more at ease.
just remember, dont hate yourself for their divorce. not everyone wants to see their parents split. but if it must happen then dont blame yourself. holding a grudge wont help you deal with the situation emotionaly.
2007-05-11 11:00:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sweet Dreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that sounds like a good idea. Otherwise, you could bring it into a relationship with someone . (the anger).
2007-05-11 10:54:24 · answer #5 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋