ok. so i have this dude friend who the whole friendship over the past 8 months has sorta bugged me told me he likes me.alot. then he asked me why i dont like him. i told him part of it. not all of it cause it sounds mean..then he was like im gonna make you fall in love with me. i dont want that. i told him no but he just keeps pushing it. i think he just cant get over the fact that there is a person who doesnt like him ya know. so its been weird.then after all of that he jokes about it he can never be serious. the worst is he is liek 2 almost 3 years older then me.in my mind im like ewwwwwww i cant see myself with him. i cant talk to him cause he is bugging me more now with the jokes and alot of them are nasty. i dont know how to tell him i want him to stop bugging me or i'll stop talking to him..i feel he is draging me away from him it has been like that for a while now.he doesnt understand that a person doesnt always have to like him.I dont know this is hard...any help...no jokes
2007-05-11 10:16:35 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
His obsession can be soul consuming. Usually due to lonelyness or not fitting in. All huimans fear lonelyness.
You could welcome him into you friends, invite him to things as a "FREIND" and let him see for himself if his love for you is real.
During said events he is going to ask you why you don't dance with him and such and you say "I don't feel for you in that way." after he hears this a few times and see's you with someone else he will understand.
Shutting people out and fearing them just breeds hostility to self and others.
I hope this helped. Best wishes,
Steve lyall
2007-05-11 10:31:26 · answer #1 · answered by Steve L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are next chatting, stop and ask him if you can both be serious for a minute, then tell him you've looked on him as a friend, but it is getting harder and harder. Tell him, "The fact is I DO like you as a friend, but I have no sexual feelings for you at all. That's something I can't change.
Now can you accept that and stop pestering and bugging me, or are you going to force me to break up our friendship?"
Depending on his answer you should know if he is worth your friendship, or you should discard him like a pair of old tights.
2007-05-11 10:31:59 · answer #2 · answered by lulu a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happens quite often. Maintain some distance, because it isn't going to go away on its own
2007-05-11 10:21:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't make him stay away from you get a restraining order. He sounds weird!
2007-05-11 10:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a boyfriend....then when you have a boyfriend tell your dude friend that you already have a boyfriend and then he will stop bugging you.
2007-05-11 10:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by carebear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋