ive been with him for 8 years and have a kid together. we are just 22 and im not shore if he is it. everything is good for us. im just dont know.
2007-05-11 09:49:08 · 12 answers · asked by miss mix 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, the final decision is up to you, but if you have been together for eight years and have had a kid, then I think you love him. Think about this and consider if you just stayed with him so he wouldn't get hurt or if you really loved him. If you decide it was not love, say I'm sorry, I'm just not ready for marrige yet, but if it is love, say yes and have a beautiful wedding day!
2007-05-11 10:04:55 · answer #1 · answered by MrsBrightside0247 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it has been 8 years, have a child with him, and you still don't know, most likely in the years you are not going to feel any different. You might want to take some time apart and get your thoughts together before you say "I Do". Marriage isn't something to play with. It is a lifetime commitment. If you are not sure I suggest you take about 2 months apart and see how you feel. Then you will probably realize that he may or may not be the 1. Not only cause you have a child with him doesn't mean that you have to marry him. That will only affect the child later on in the future if it doesn't work in between you 2. -Laura
2007-05-11 16:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by mrz_lr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When in doubt, don't! This is so true. If you have any doubts at all, any questions at all, any unanswered things -DON'T! I would think that if you're questioning this, the answer would be don't marry until you are SURE!!!! You should, by this time, know whether or not it's right for you and the child. Take a piece of paper and write down all the pros and cons; on one side all the plus things in your relationship; then on the other side, write down the negatives. Then think it all over. Don't make a lifetime commitment until you are sure. Your life is worth something! You are worth something!
Good luck.
2007-05-11 17:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by dellastreet38 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay girl. If you are not sure that means no. DO NOT MARRY HIM. If you are uncertain of something or someone you just don't do it. You take your time explore your options. Maybe this is your first relationship this is what i am gathering from your short but to the point statement. Maybe you need to be out more in the dating field. Meet new people and date new ones too. Ask for a time out. Like a yr or atleast 6 months. Just to explore and see what is out there. I do not mean sleep with them but date out others. If you feel that at that time you can not stop thinking or you miss him then he is the one. It is like that saying " If you love someone set them free and if he/she come back to you then he/she is yours.
2007-05-11 16:58:21 · answer #4 · answered by Elswith R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't marry him just because you have a kid with him, if you have any doubts about it then don't do it, you should get married out of love not an obligation, talk to him and see what are his plans for the future for the both of you just to see where his head is at and take things from there, the both of you should make the decision because when the time is right and you are ready to make the next step towards commitment in your lives...
2007-05-13 01:35:24 · answer #5 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, then you're probably not ready. Go see a marital counselor (a local church can refer you) and get some pre-marital counseling before you make plans. They can help you figure what may be holding you back, and identify the strengths and weaknesses of your relationship.
2007-05-11 16:58:29 · answer #6 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be sure. A child is no reason to marry a guy you may not love. Your life would be hell. Take your time, and make sure.
2007-05-11 16:54:46 · answer #7 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if you are sure dont do it just because you have a child togeather doesnt mean you have to marry him
2007-05-11 16:53:53 · answer #8 · answered by weeping_spirit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not sure then dont do it. Wait for a while and see what happens in the future.
2007-05-11 16:52:46 · answer #9 · answered by I am woman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should married him and think of your children future.
2007-05-11 16:54:20 · answer #10 · answered by TAMPABAYLADY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋