if you were talking to a friends boyfriend and he asked for a back rub cuz his shoulder hurt and you did and he got hard and you told another friend in writing the next day and the guys girlfriend confronts you about it that day............ you TRUSTED this friend and they betrayed you!!!!!!!!!!!!!! would you forgive her, no matter how much she appollogized?
2007-05-11 08:58:54 · 19 answers · asked by da bella italiana angela 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Yea its not like they had sex or anything its just a little woody it happens to guys all the time! Well from what I have noticed. Its not a big deal way worse things can happen!
2007-05-11 09:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by Merrisa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tough one. For me it would depend on how she's been in the past. Could you trust her then? Has she betrayed you before? Can she normally keep a secret.
If she has a habit of doing that sort of thing, no I wouldn't forgive her. What's the point in having a friend you can't talk to about everything and trust that it'll stay between you two?
If she's never been like that in the past, yes I'd forgive her. People slip up sometimes. Everyone deserves a second chance.
2007-05-11 16:04:29 · answer #2 · answered by NoSurrender 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it was an uncomfortable situation all around.
The first BIG GLARING question in my mind is whether this back rub was as innocent as you portray it...no flirting, no undercurrent, there's no attraction between you?
If you can answer truthfully that it was "innocent" and the guy had an oops moment I would think that as his friend you wouldnt be sharing his embarrassing moment with others.
So in reality it sounds like almost everyone in this situation is probably feeling a bit betrayed and it doesnt sound like that was the intention from anyone involved (unless you answered yes that there was something going on between you & the guy).
If it were me, I would not be too hard on anyone else because I probably couldve handled it better myself...lesson learned, do better next time.
2007-05-11 16:11:02 · answer #3 · answered by Reneejah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard question -- your in a weird position to be asking if you should be talking about forgiving.
First of all the girlfriend had a right to know.
Second, it's hard to sit there and watch your friend ( the girlfriend) be betrayed by you and not say anything. It's not fare of you to ask her to keep such a secret.
And Third, to answer your question, no. Never trust anyone with a secret (especially us women). The only way a secret stays a secret, is if your the only one who knows.
2007-05-11 16:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by middelmom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you should not tell her anything in future that could cause you problems. It is not a good idea to put stuff in writing that you could not put on the Internet and not be worried about it.
If you can find better friends, I would phase her out, because if they do it once, they will do it again to you. But her strengths in other ways may outweigh this. It is your call, but just make sure that she is just a friend not your best friend.
2007-05-11 16:06:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow you were wrong in the first place for giving him a backrub and yes i would forgive her cause all she was doing was being a good friend to your other friend im sure if something like that happened with your boyfriend you would want to know and if you found out and you knew that your friend knew you would be on here asking if you should forgive her for knowing and not telling you so yes i would forgive her and you should too......and from now on only give backrubs to single guys, your boyfriend, or the ***** down the street who you dont like and you know it would make them furious.
2007-05-11 16:16:59 · answer #6 · answered by Cilla_88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was inappropriate for the boyfriend to ask you for a back rub. It was inappropriate for you to accept. He had to know that it would "get him going".
You're friend has loose lips, but she apologized: accept it and move on. You may be displacing some of the guilt from yourself onto your friend without acknowledging your part in this mess.
You're blaming your friend (for telling that you turn somebody else's man on). The girlfriend is blaming you (for her boyfriend's lack of judgement). Who's blaming the boyfriend?
2007-05-11 16:23:48 · answer #7 · answered by K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriends an *** for asking your friends to do stuff like that. You guys are friends and now your mad at her. Today is the best day to confront both of them on the problem...
2007-05-11 16:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by geo♥ant 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, forgive; carrying a grudge doesn't do any good. Just be extra careful from now on - to forgive does not necessarily include trusting. Also be careful what you write down from now on.
2007-05-11 16:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Note to self, never put anything u don't want known in writing. Maybe the friend misplaced the note. I would forgive b/c it could've been an honest mistake.
2007-05-11 16:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by Misty D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋