How can I keep this secret if my parents have to pay for my medical insurance? What about my taxes can they still cliam me? I need help I am scared. My husband and I want to hurry getting married because he is in the Army and we are too afraid of deployments and we want him to be able to come home if something happened to me. Please help.
2007-05-11 08:19:18 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are getting married for the wrong reason. If you are young enough to still be claimed as a dependent by your parents then you are WAY WAY too young to be getting married. You'd be out of your mind to do it. I hope you think long and hard about this LIFE TIME decision.
2007-05-11 08:22:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Girl,
I had to answer this question because this is same way I married my husband many years ago. In your question you say 'my husband' so I take it you are already married.
I was 18 1/2 and just out of High School when I did this. I told my parents that morning I was going to work. I had my wedding dress in the trunk of my car. I met my hubby-to-be at his sisters house and off we went to the justice of the peace. After it was over I went straight home to my parents house.We didn't end up telling them for over a month. Why?Because I felt that my parents didn't accept him and if I told them we were thinking of getting married they would try to stop it somehow.
Today I feel what I did was very juvenile and extremely sneeky. People stopped trusting me and everyone around me was whispering I was pregnant which I wasn't. We had our first child 2 years later. Thinking back I wish I would have told them before I did something like that. I should have just taken the consequences. I was over 18 and I probably would have married him anyway even without their approval.
What I don't understand about your question is where you say you would want him to be able to come home if something happened to you? I don't understand what you're saying there. Your parents cannot claim you or hold you on their medical insurance now that you are married.I would advise you to tell them right away.
Sorry for this being so long but your question brought back so many memories and it took me right back to that time. I'll be thinking about you and I'm wishing you the very best. I hope everything works out well for you.
2007-05-11 08:59:47 · answer #2 · answered by seashell 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. No and again, No. Once you're married, your parents cannot claim you as a dependent. That fouls up all the rest of your concerns too.
Speak with your parents. Then speak with your fiance's (he's not your husband yet) Commanding Officer. Getting married without informing your CO is a court-marshal offense (Army). The only reason why my Army Sgt. husband didn't get slapped hard is because my dad is a Bird Col and he caused a big hoo-haa. But husband's CO was not at all happy. Fortunately this was peacetime (1984) so it wasn't too bad - but not today, sis. Be careful.
This is especially problematic because of deployment. So you'd better be on the up and up from the start.
2007-05-11 08:29:25 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you all are getting married for the wrong reasons. Are you a minor? If so, I don't believe that you can get married as a minor without your parents knowledge because they would have to sign something (can't remember how it goes). If you are an adult, married and your parents are claiming you as a dependent then it is possible that your parents taxes can be audit and they can be in a little trouble. Don't get your parents in trouble. Get married and get on your husband's insurance or get your own.
2007-05-11 08:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by Who me? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you keep that sort of secret, you will not only damage the your relationship with your parents, but you will be in legal trouble as well.
Don't get married until you're really ready to get married. Don't let temporary circumstances drive such a serious decision.
If you DO get married, be honest about it. You'll be your husband's dependent. You'll have full medical coverage, plus additional $$ for housing expenses. There's no need for your parents to foot a bill that's already being paid.
Whatever you do, don't lie about it to anyone.
2007-05-11 09:42:00 · answer #5 · answered by Vincent 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not possible to hide it from your parents. Own up to it. Legally they could be in a lot of trouble if they continued to claim you as their dependant. If you married a military man you already have new health insurance. Why on earth would you feel like you have to keep this a secret unless you are a minor?
2007-05-11 08:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by Garrison G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you got married and didn't tell your parents and they claimed you as a dependent on their taxes for your medical purposes or any other purpose, IRS will eventually catch on. It may three, ten, fifteen years from now before they realize that something is wrong. Your parents will be audited. May face charges based on false tax information.
If you marry this man who is in the service, you will get his medical benefits because you are his dependent.
2007-05-11 08:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by lwheavenlyangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you get married your tax filing status changes, it is against the law for your parents to claim you as a dependent if you are married, your HUSBAND must claim you as a dependent especially if he is military. IF he is military being married he will get an "allotment" which is extra money in his paycheck and that will change his tax status. So if you marry, don't tell your parents and they claim you on their income taxes they can go to jail...if your husband also claims you on his, HE can go to jail...because your parents are claiming you.
Deception never works out.
2007-05-11 09:17:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant keep it a secret forever. You will loose your insurance through parents, but should get it through husband. You will need to claim yourself starting now. If you really want to be with him, open your mouth and say I AM Married.
2007-05-11 08:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by mamatucker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are getting married for all the wrong reasons. Besides if you love this guy, why wouldn't you want to let everyone know you are getting married?? INCLUDING your parents... but then again, if they are still claiming you as a dependent you might still be a kid (too young to get married) or retarded.... i pick the later!!
2007-05-11 08:28:56 · answer #10 · answered by marisanj 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋