question about child support?

Question

My ex owes me about $30,000 in back child suport. he wants me to close the case and handle it ourselfs. If I get the exact amount and write out a letter saying exactly how much he owes me can I have it noterized? Will it hold up in court if he doesnt keep up with his payments?

Answer 1

The reason he OWES you $30,000 is because he didn't PAY to begin with. He knows that if you back down now, you won't stand up and fight when he doesn't pay after the case is "closed". Stand your ground, don't back down. make him PAY!!

Answer 2

I don't know where your ex gets his information from, but that's not how it works. The only way to "close" a child support case is when the child meets the guidelines for ending support 18 or 21 if they go to college.

As a single dad who pays child support, I can tell you your ex is trying to protect his own interests. If he owes $30,000 in arrears, he ought to be thankful he isn't in jail, and hasn't had any of his licesenes suspended. I have a feeling he's trying to avoid that.

Answer 3

It's hard to say, because we don't know what state you are talking about. Different states - different rules. He want to handle it between you so he can run. He probably wants to get it out of the courts so he doesn't land himself in jail. I believe a lot of states are buckling down to enforce child support payments. With the state of Indiana they are hitting it hard. Different government offices will lose their funds, so this forces them into hunting down deadbeat parents. States are enforcing this to lower welfare payments as well.

As for it holding up in court, it may, because it is basically a contract agreement, but I don't know how much the courts will be able to do for you. Let the courts handle it, you will have a better chance that way. You will only hurt yourself and your child in the long run.

Answer 4

Duh...no. The only way to collect is to keep the debt on the books and enforceable through the court. How would you enforce the order? Do you have the authority to do an income withholding, jail him, intercept his tax refund? You should apply with your local child support enforcement agency for enforcement assistance. They will help you at little or no cost. If you do sign off on this, kiss it goodbye because the court will not reinstate it.

Answer 5

I would just say don't close the case. That's the only way you can garentee you will get the owed amount. Unless you REALLY know this guy is going to pay you after you close the case then I wouldn't go for it.

Answer 6

The first place you need to get it through the court and if the child suport people do not want to they won't let him stop paying no matter what you and him want to do. Stay with with system if you piss him off down the road and he stops paying you will SOL iy your not in the system

Answer 7

I dont understand how you can "close" the case. If he owes you that amount, that's up the courts to decide

You need to take him back to court, and through the court, they will see how he pays that amount back and any other amount owed.

Answer 8

The dumbest thing a mother can ever do is "handle it ourselves" -- if he didn't pay before he won't pay when you are handling it yourself.


That money is for your child and you have no business risking it on his word --- leave it where it is and get the deadbeat to start paying up. You owe that to your child.

Answer 9

I would suspect that your ex thinks you will be easier to "handle" when he renigs, than the courts would be
Don't do it
be brave and do what you know has to be done

Answer 10

In order to do that, you'd most likely have to tell the courts that he paid.

Then if he doesn't, you have no recourse other than to say you perjured yourself.