what is expected of the aunt to be...?

Question

i was told i was doing a baby shower and expected to do a list of num of things without anyone even asking, is this normal.. i thought i was the one who just had fun with it... am i wrong?

im not only talking of the baby shower itself... she has all these other lil things like after she has the baby i shld come help everyday for two weeks and im the baby sitter and yeah the list goes on .. is that my job as aunt?

Answer 1

The baby shower....defiantely throw that (but you shouldnt' have been asked....that's kind of pushy!!).

As far as all the other little things....it's one thing if she asked you to help out, it's another if she tries to make it sound like this is your JOB as an aunt. Do what you are comfortable doing. Aunt does not mean "SLAVE" or housekeeper!!

Answer 2

If this is something that you feel uncomfortable with just let your sister know. I am unaware that the sister of the new mommy is responsible for anything other than just being there for her sister. If your sister is still in need of a baby shower maybe you could suggest someone who would be happier to do it and offer to help by using some of your skills. You could do deserts if you are a good cook, invitations if you know who needs to come and how to find them, or decorating if you have an eye for detail and a knack for themed events. The most important thing is to just be there for your sister and let her know that you support her, even if planning a baby shower isn't your thing. Babies are a lot of work and someone that plans on helping shows true love.

Answer 3

wow... that seems kinda demanding. If your the only family member close by then I guess her assuming you would be throwing a baby shower isn't that unreasonable, seeing as how she cant throw herself a shower and I'm sure would appreciate one. But assuming you will be there after the baby is born and what not is a bit much. I say help with the shower if they need your help, but only if you want to. Its ment to be a happy day and having someone there that doesnt want to be, will be felt in the room. As for helping out once the baby is born, again only if you want to, but let her know now that way she doesnt schedual around her plans with you being there to help out. Good luck!

Answer 4

Who told you you had to do a party?

It is not normal for the aunt to have to do it. Usually a family member or close friend would throw a shower but no one should be told you ave to do it. It is not your job.

It is your sister though and it would be a nice thing to do for her. Unless, it is your sister-in-law and than it is even more so not your place to have to do this party.

If you didn't say anything at the time I would go ahead and do it now. You don't want to look like a putz

Answer 5

If you are the only family member she has this would be the caring thing to do. If she has a mother and other family members living as well as good friends and in-laws see if someone else can do it or work with them to make this a special event. Good Luck!

Answer 6

mmmm bit odd not to be asked. try looking at some web sites
www.babycenter.com ,and type baby shower into their search engine
or
www.partyshelf.com/baby_shower_tips.htm

Answer 7

Just order some cakes, buy some white streamers and plan some games. You'll be fine.

Answer 8

that's just rude if you ask me, it should have been up to you if you wanted to do a baby shower! but i do think you'll be just fine:)

Answer 9

well it seems that people fel you are responsible and are going to just assume you are going to take care of everything without even asking you.

Talk to your sister/brother and ask them if this is what they expect of you and although you are happy to offer your help it would have been nice to have been asked:)