My husbands family is totally stuck on this one girl that my husband just dated in high school they act like they were marriad had three kids two dogs and a big house to divide after the break up. When we go to his parents house there are pics everywhere of her and her new baby we have been married for a year and together for 3 dont you think that that is rude and disrespectful to me. That family has no reason to keep in touch so much she isnt that great what do i do?
2007-05-11 07:50:51 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
His family has every right to have anything up in their own house. As hard as it may seem, the relationship between the parents and that woman is still there. The only thing that should worry you is what kind of relationship your husband has with her these days. Maybe if you talk about it with your husband, he may just start talking to his family about the pictures. And next time you visit them, there may just be less pictures hanging around.
Something to think about is the feeling of being a grandparent... they may have those pictures as a reminder that they have entered that time of life of grandparenthood.
2007-05-11 08:02:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand why you would feel that way absolutely. But we have a girl we consider family in that same way just because she just clicked really great with our family, not because we wish she was still with him. He's since remarried and I honestly didn't think how that would make her feel, so if nothing else I will definitely make sure his new wife's feelings aren't being hurt in that process! We just all really liked the ex's personality and stayed good friends with her, even if things weren't meant to be with him. If it bothers you that much have your husband mention it to someone-- they might, like my family, be oblivious to the fact it's hurting your feelings.... no matter how ovious it should be!!
2007-05-11 08:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by ~*TiNa*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would voice my concern to my husband. This way he can say something to his family. It will be better coming from him then from you. You don't want to give them a reason to hate you. If his family all remained friends with his woman then I don't think it is weird that they have pictures however, it is kind of disrespectful if they tell you to your face that they liked her better. How is your relationship with them? If you already have problems with them do talk to your husband.
2007-05-11 07:59:17 · answer #3 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First let your husband know how you feel, then advise his family. Worse case scenario is they can @ least remove her photos in your presence out of respect. I don't care how great she is...you're the wife and she's not. They need to let her go and move on!
2007-05-11 09:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by Love Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is totally rude and disrespectful to you and to your husband. I would refuse to go to their home. I guess they have their own friendship with her but to have her pictures out is very disrespectful to you.
2007-05-11 07:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by mich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You take the high road and don't get hung up on it. He married you, not her. It was his choice who to marry, not the family's. When they bring her up, just say, "She sounds like a charming person", and change the subject.
2007-05-11 08:01:20 · answer #6 · answered by Ralfcoder 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his family are being, very disrespectful to you, but your husband should say something to them. but on the other hand you got the main prize, he chose you and married you. she cant be that good he didn't marry her did he ! . talk to your husband and get him to talk to his family. good luck.
2007-05-11 08:16:52 · answer #7 · answered by RACHEL B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she was so great, then he must not be.In fact he proves it with those pictures.Get rid of this poor excuse of a (man).
2007-05-11 07:57:18 · answer #8 · answered by Badmamajama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋