my husband gets mad if i want to see my parents he also got mad b cuz my dad gave me flowers for mothers day and he gets mad b cuz my parents want to see my baby.we live with hes mom but we live upstairs i hate hes mom i think thats why he wants to act like that with my parents but its the opposite my parents love him but he has the nerve to talk **** about them .hes mom hates me i really dont know what to do i listen to him all the time and im tired of it someone help me!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-05-11 07:50:08 · 31 answers · asked by Daisy C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you know what to do Daisy. Its only gonna get worse. You need to stand up for yourself. Let him know your concerns. The longer you wait the harder it will become.
2007-05-11 07:56:04 · answer #1 · answered by gonz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you are not being respected by either parties! You need to leave!!! I have been in a relationship just like that and I left!!! I moved into with my parents with my daughter and life got soooo much better!! A person that controls you, has no control over themselves, BEWARE!! You need to say what you want and that there is not a damn thing they can do to change your mind-if you are fearful, say it over the phone, I had to !!! He hates your parents because they make you happy and if you are happy he wont be happy! What about your child, do want you baby to grow up thinking that that kind of behavior is OK?? Hell NO!!! For your protection, GET OUT AND TAKE YOUR BABY!!! email me if you need any help!!! I have been there, you must be strong!!!
2007-05-11 07:57:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get out of the parents house.
If you really love each other you can live seperatley and still continue the relationship until you can get a place of your own.
I would suggest you move back in to your parents for now and he lives with his.
Then save together and get a place of your own where you wont have problems like this.
If he still tells you what to do all the time then he's either
A: a control freak
B: Very Nervous about loosing you
C: Does not trust you.
Hope this helps
Have a doughnut and relax.
2007-05-11 07:54:51 · answer #3 · answered by Fantom Doughnut Eater 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
BF? Get out while you can! He sounds like a loser!
Husband? You're commited to try and make it work. The 2 of you need to get your own place for starters. Then at least act nice to the MIL even if she doesn't act nice to you. Complaining about her doesn't seem to have helped your marriage. Looks like hubby saying if you can't be nice to mine I won't be nice to yours.
Don't back down about you getting to see your parents and receive small gifts from them - that's too controlling and will probably lead to more isolation issues. Stop it before it gets worse. You two need to have some serious discussions - not yelling matches, but actually listening to each other. Get a counselor if you have to.
2007-05-11 07:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by V 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a control freak. If you aren't smart enough to get yourself out of there, then I don't know what to tell you! You've already made poor choices in your life, having a child you can't afford, by a guy that's a jerk, so it's time you started making wise choices now that you have a child depending on you! This relationship is doomed anyway, so you may as well get out now and start making a good life for you and your baby!
2007-05-11 07:58:44 · answer #5 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a control freak. He wants to hold you under his thumb and insist you think and do everything that he considers appropriate.
Tell him you might consider what he has to say the day he is capable of living on his own and not under Mommy's roof. Remind him that you are an independent human being capable of thought, feelings, and decisions on your own. Tell him you will remain that independent human being no matter what he wants to feel about that. Stand your ground. Don't let this emotional bully take over your life and isolate you from your family.
2007-05-11 07:55:21 · answer #6 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find somewhere that gives counseling and go there. They will help you either stand up to him or stand up and get out. This is going to end up hurting you and the baby whether you think it does or not. Children picks up on our "vibes" and we often don't realize it. I don't' think these people really "hate" you although I am sure that is how it must feel but if that is what you feel, you don't need to be there.
"Life is too short to dance with an ugly person".
Which means, if you aren't in a happy situation, it is an ugly one. (I don't mean physically ugly).
2007-05-11 08:07:29 · answer #7 · answered by VetSupporter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You run ur own life n you need to let him knoe that...he did not create you therfore cannot n will not control you...Onceu stand up to him n let him knoe wats wat..he will get the idea n back off...n if ya r going thorugh thinmgs like this wit the jealousy of the parents ya dont need to be together..
2007-05-11 07:59:14 · answer #8 · answered by Wanette..Bytch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he your boyfriend or your husband? You need to have a serious talk with your parents about what's going on. Tell them everything and tell them that you can't take it anymore. Better still, pack up your baby and go stay with your parents until you figure out what to do.
2007-05-11 07:55:22 · answer #9 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The title question says "bf" and the rest of the question says "husband".
Either way, he is a super control freak loser.
Most women who get these guys have something in their nature that is attracted to them.
Hopefully you can see the light and get away. Far away.
Many of these guys are or will be violent stalkers.
Good luck.
2007-05-11 07:54:06 · answer #10 · answered by ignoramus 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
was this an arranged marriage? if it wasnt why move in with someone you dont like?
if it is then there are people that can help you get out of the situation, ring the local police or womens refuges. if they cant help direct they can find someone who can,
if this isnt an arranged marriage then leave him! he sounds nasty piece of work, i know its hard as you probably are in love, but be selfish and think about yourself and your babys happiness
x
2007-05-11 07:57:33 · answer #11 · answered by darrens-girl22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋