it was my fault why i ended up with somebody else. i knew this guy before i met my husband. i told him that i really like him a lot and i go gaga over him. due to some circumstances and we decided to call it quits, i married my husband. but until now i couldn`t forget him. i keep on blaming myself until now and i haven`t told him that i`m already married. pls help me...
2007-05-11 07:45:18 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce him!
Take full custody of the kids and don't let the father speak with them!
And if you're pregnant abort right now!
Buy only made in China products!
Vote in Bush friends!
And keep watching Hollywood!
2007-05-11 07:58:41 · answer #1 · answered by Pazlevaaoamor 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have moved on and married someone else. You need to tell him.
It sounds like you need to do some really deep soul searching. Did you marry your husband on the rebound? Or because you really loved him.
If you really love your HUSBAND, then you need to stay away from the ex boyfriend.
If you married on the rebound you may need to pick up your toys and get a divorce.
Only YOU can make the decisions you need to make.
Look at some person counseling too.
2007-05-11 07:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♥The Queen Has Spoken♥♥ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a similar situation not too long ago. I know exactly how you're feeling. Please forget about the other guy and stay with your husband. There must be a reason why you didn't stay with him. You took vows when you got married. Don't make the mistake of letting your husband know, it could be the end of your marriage.
2007-05-11 08:22:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HOW OLD ARE YOU???SO MANY YOUNG PEOPLE GET MARRIED THESE DAYS FOR ALL THE WRONG REASONS AND THEN END IN DIVORCE..WELL THE FIRST LOVE OF OUR LIVES NEVER LEAVES OUR MEMORIES..BUT TO ACT UPON A RELATIONSHIP AGAIN WITH THAT PERSON??AND YOUR MARRIED??IS TOTALLY OUT OF LINE..YOU MARRIED YOUR HUSBAND FOR BETTER OR WORSE..YOU KNEW WHAT YOUW AS DOING WHEN YOU MARRIED..IF YOU START A MARRIAGE IN A LIE..IT WILL END IN A LIE..YOU HAVE TO THINK ABOUT YOUR HUSBAND NOW HIS FEELINGS AND WHAT HE WOULD FEEL LIKE TO BE TOLD YOUR IN LOVE WITH ANOTHER MAN...SAD SO VERY SAD..UNTIL NOW YOU DIDNT KNOW THIS OR THAT..SO YOU SAY..BUT NOW..AS IN TODAY YOU KNOW THE FACTS..YOU KNOW WHATS RIGHT AN WRONG AND YOU SHOULD STAY WITH YOUR HUSBAND..SOUNDS LIKE HES A NICE MAN..NOT ABUSIVE OR ANYTHING...YOU MADE YOUR BED..LAY IN IT SO TO SPEAK OK.....WELLTHAT WAS ALL YESTERDAY..THIS IS TODAY AND HOPEFULY GOD WILLING YOU'LL HAVE TOMORROW...THE PAST IS GONE..
2007-05-11 07:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by bettym 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a man in a similar situation. But this girl knows I am married, and she also knows how I feel about her. I just live life knowing that I am married to the woman I love and the love I have for the other woman has to be forgotten and considered lost until divorce or death. I will not cheat on my wife I love her, and my kids with her. But I loved this other woman first. Good luck, love can hurt sometimes, and it is surly confusing!
2007-05-11 07:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by dielibralsdie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you are married, right away.
You sound like someone who has to be coupled with someone else. You are incapable of being alone. I would suggest that you tell your husband that you made a mistake and you still have feelings for someone else. Tell him you need to find out what your feelings are for the man you used to know. When your husband leaves, be alone for awhile. Figure out who you are and what you want in life. Be content with being alone for a while. Then, if you still are interested, date the man you used to know. Find out what you thought you were missing or what you thought might have happened between you.
It really doesn't matter who you choose in the end. The issues that you have to deal with in this life are inside you and you will bring them to any relationship that you get involved with. Figure out what those issues are, resolve them, and you'll be happy with anyone you choose to be with.
2007-05-11 07:52:02 · answer #6 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over it!!!
Your husband deserves for someone who is truely going to love and cherish him.He doesnt deserve for you to be thinking about another man.Imagine if the shoe were on the other foot.Would you want him to make love to you thinking of someone else.You know what the right thing to do is...so do it..If this man let you go so easily HE IS NOT WORTH IT!Cherish the one that loves you and chose to spend the rest of his life with you...! Good luck...
2007-05-11 09:40:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why did you marry your husband? Do you love him? NOTHING guarantees you would be happier with this other guy. Find what made you get married to your husband and work to make yours a better relationship. Too late for regrets.
2007-05-11 07:49:23 · answer #8 · answered by pablo f 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give your husband the benefit of the doubt. After all, he did go to the trouble of marrying you. Your previous boyfriend is really a theif by trying to steal you back. Avoid him and spare your husband the pain of betrayal.
2007-05-11 08:00:44 · answer #9 · answered by mojonah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe when you were married you took a vow - to love honor and cherish - in better and worse - until death. Well, now it's worse.
Tell your former boyfriend you're married and go back and re-discover the reasons you married your husband
2007-05-11 07:47:44 · answer #10 · answered by Uncle John 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋