His wife is a fraud. She does not cook nor clean, she probably doesn't wash her undies. I know he has feelings for me and he loves my cooking. He is willing to leave his wife and move in with me but I think there will be a bit of confusion since his wife knows where i'm living. What should I do?
2007-05-11 07:02:27 · 32 answers · asked by Cutiepie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes what comes around goes around ...
Leave the man!
Find a single guy!
Some day it could happen to you too, if he is leaving his present one, one day he will leave you too.
"In my judgment, one of the basic reasons we have had crime, lawlessness, and disorder in the United States has been the breakdown of the family." - Robert F. Kennedy
"Fatherlessness is the most harmful demographic trend of this generation. It is the leading cause of declining child well-being in our society." - David Blankenhorn, author of Fatherless America
2007-05-11 07:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by Pazlevaaoamor 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
What you need to do is start by asking yourself many questions!!
Like, why do I need another womans husband? Aren't I good enough to find me a single man?
You need to remind yourself that OK, hey, he wants to leave her for me............well, when the better cook turns up, he's going to leave you for HER!
You won't find too many smpathizers out here for your question. Your interferring with a marriage, and that my dear, is a NO NO!! You have no self respect, and he sure isn't going to show you any either.
Also remember, this man married her knowing she doesn't cook, nor clean. And as far as her undies go, now is that really any of your business?
I hope his wife comes beating down your door and shows you something!
2007-05-11 07:11:13 · answer #2 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No honey... The married man is a fraud because he is doing the dirty behind his wife's back. How do you know these things personally? Do you live with them also? Oh thats right he told you, after all you have every reason to trust him as he is a man of truth. I recommend that you keep your distance from him and leave married men alone and find your own man... Oh and BTW if you and him do end up together there is not a doubt in my mind that soon enough you'll be in the same situation...
Thanks homewrecker that's 2 points for me.
2007-05-11 14:04:32 · answer #3 · answered by happytree 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The only confusion is in your imagination. Stop reading so many romance novels and wake up and smell the coffee. A man who cheats on his wife will cheat on you. And why do you think you're better than his wife? She didn't get there by accident. They have a relationship that you really know nothing about. All you know is what you selfishly want. And you don't even have the self-respect to get a single man of your own, you have to hook up with a narcissistic player who is using you. You need to get a life of your own. Try looking for respect, not just buying a man with sex and cooking. There are houses of ill-repute in Nevada for sex, and restaurants everywhere for food. Maybe he's just cheap. You've got to offer some character, not just be a back-stabbing sneak to attract a real man.
2007-05-11 07:21:47 · answer #4 · answered by skier_80302 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
His wife is the fraud? You getting involved with someone elses husband doesn't say to much about you! IF he actual does have feelings for you they are that based on either sex or the thrill of sneaking around behind his wife's back! He's not going to leave her and if he did who's to say he wouldn't do the same to you? Do yourself a favor - LEAVE HIM ALONE! There are plenty of SINGLE guys in this world who would appreciate you and your cooking. Don't be "the other woman!"
2007-05-11 07:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by sharonna 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think that regardless of your or this man's affections for each other you need to be respectful of the fact that he MARRIED!!! No matter how he feels about the state of his marriage or what he has led you to believe about what his wife does or doesn't do for him you need to be an adult and step back. If he is willing to leave his wife then you need to give him the time and space to do that. If after a period of time the two of you start to see each other then let if be after he finalizes a divorce, but know that the problems in his marriage are not just simply the result of his wife. You need to be mature enough to back away from this man and either encourage him to fix his marriage or take the right steps to leave it. Either way, his feelings for you can not be completely genuine until his wife is no longer a factor. The fact that you are willing to feed off of his problematic marriage shows how immature and selfish you are too. If you love him then you owe it to him to be a good friend first. you really should be ashamed of your encouragement of his behavior...he obviously has things to work on before he can be any good to himself or you.
2007-05-11 07:10:22 · answer #6 · answered by superwmn315 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If he is willing to leave his wife, what makes you think one day he won't leave you? First you need to think about the entire situation. Do you know both sides of the story. I know from experience, that sometimes they just aren't telling the entire story. If he truly loves you, first he has to leave his wife, and have an apartment of his own for a while. There is always going to be some hostility from his former spouse, can you deal with this? It;s not easy.
Good Luck, I'm sure you will make the correct decision.
2007-05-11 07:24:38 · answer #7 · answered by Misty D 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Find someone who's already unattached or just leave him alone and let him figure out his deal before you involve yourself in his life in any way. Regardless of what HE SAYS his wife is, would you really want someone to disrespect you the way he is his wife? If he's unhappy, he needs to finish his marriage w/o being involved w/ another person. Would you really want a man who cheats? Doesn't that say something about who he is as a person? About his philosophy and values?
2007-05-11 07:16:42 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him until he is separated and living away from his wife. You don't know anything about his wife except for what he tells you and you may not be able to trust that. If he says he is leaving his wife, let him leave her first. There have been many spouses who have said they were leaving and never did.
2007-05-11 07:10:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
DANGER WILL ROBINSON...a "bit of confusion"??? Are you kidding??
If a man will cheat on his wife with you what makes you think he is going to be faithful to you in a relationship? (ANSWER he won't be and if you think so you are smoking the big one.)
Clearly you are already having an affair so he's proven to you that he can lie and you have proven to yourself that you have no scruples and will have a slice of any old thing that comes down the pike including a married man.
If he's not happy in his relationship it is up to him to get out and move on BEFORE he becomes involved with another woman. His failure to do that has proven him unfit for relationship and his cowardice, fear of being alone and general all round inappropriateness for relationship. But then birds of a feather...maybe you are both loosers and deserve each other???
2007-05-11 07:17:36 · answer #10 · answered by Garrison G 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Stay away from a married man, period. There is no good ending to this relationship. Either the wife will find out and come after you or he'll string you along for years. They will do anything or say anything if they think there is a chance to score with you. Save the wear and tear on your heart and walk the other way.
2007-05-11 07:09:53 · answer #11 · answered by raven754 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋