He does not want marriage or kids. I am mid 30's never had any kids as never met anyone it felt right with. I never met anyone I wanted to Marry before him and now I have he does not want to commit and have children. What shall I do as I want both. or maybe I'm too old and it's not meant to be.
2007-05-11 06:37:48 · 15 answers · asked by cool_blue_c2002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How can he be the man of your dreams if he doesn't want what you want out of life? Keep looking, this ones not it.
2007-05-11 06:40:58 · answer #1 · answered by rudytute 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not the man for you. I got married at 37 met my husband at 35 so your not to old. Move on, as you will not change him. If you want marriage and a family then do not waste your time with a guy who is telling you he is not on the same page. Marriage is work and it works when two people have the same goals. Sorry to say he is not wanting what you want and I would not give up your dream on a guy who can't commit
2007-05-11 14:03:36 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's obvious the that two of you want completely different things for your lives. So why waste your time? Let go and move on. He may seem like the greatest guy right now but if you can't be with him in the way you want to, years from now, you would be very sorry.
There are plenty of men in their 30's and 40's who can't wait to meet a woman who is willing to marry and have children. Don't ever think that you are too old or not worthy.
If you stick around, you will be wasting your time, it's simple as that! It just isn't meant to be...
2007-05-11 13:54:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep looking. You haven't met the man of your dreams yet. He may be a great guy, but you want totally different things in life. Eventually it will end the relationship because you may decide marriage and children are something you're just not willing to give up and he has made it clear that neither of those will be possible with him.
2007-05-11 13:46:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not too old but, I think you are getting a bit desperate. You should not be with someone who does not want a commitment if you do. You are setting yourself up for heartache. There are many men out there who want a family and children, maybe they don't look as good as others but have a great personality. Widen out in your search for a mate or you could loose a really good man.
2007-05-11 13:43:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really isn't the man of your dreams, is he. You certainly are not too old, but I'm wondering if that thought isn't part of the reason you want to marry him.
Do not settle for him. You will not be happy. Scratch him off the list. There is a man who can really make you happy out there.
2007-05-11 13:40:52 · answer #6 · answered by JB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like he is the man of your dreams.... I would move on. If family & marriage is important, you need to find someone else who shares this belief rather than waste time staying with an eternal bachelor.
2007-05-11 13:47:24 · answer #7 · answered by Clarissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't want the same things as you (marriage and children) then I fail to see how he is the man of your dreams.
2007-05-11 13:44:47 · answer #8 · answered by Poppet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you have not met the man of your dreams. He isn't even on the same page with you. You're not too old....find a man who wants it all with you.
2007-05-11 13:42:20 · answer #9 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to move on. this person does not want to commit and you do. and eventually he is going to break your heart in two. just know he will only dissapoint and sadden you in the long run. my hubby was like this yrs and yrs ago and i moved on to another person and left him alone and finally out of the blue he contacted me a long time later then wanted to be with me ...sadly enough i married him and e is very cold and distant toward me and refuses me sex and affection...so see...even if this guy was to want u back when u move on he might be like my hubby is and not treat u nice. i realize this after 4 yrs. it sucks but we now have a 1 yr old together.
2007-05-11 13:46:02 · answer #10 · answered by NEWPORT BEACH GIRL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋