If that happens what to do? It happens some times. Dont answer vulgarly please. If a married woman starts loving a married man (not her husband) after her marriage, what to do? Suggest what to do?. kabhi alvida naa kehna.......
2007-05-11 06:32:27 · 42 answers · asked by gandharva 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sure you can it’s your life! The only criteria that can get affected both of yours personal married life as both of you will not be able to keep the same matrimonial/conjugal relationship with your respective spouses as it was before your indulgence in this companionship with each other. Your individuals spouse will not get the same love & affection from you which they had before nor they'll be able to continue with you if they are exposed to your relationship. There will be similar effect on your individual kids too & they will find blame in you for their disturbed family life with parents & that will be true also. In case you indulge is casual sexual relationship once or twice without much sentimental indulgence in this affair you could forget it with time but when you continue it for longer time with a sentimental attachment then this result in total split of yourself in two personalities , a spouse to your spouse & a companion to your companion, here you have to be emotionally attached with both the persons at the same time which is physically & mentally not possible with the result it can spoil both your personal as well professional life too .
2007-05-11 13:31:26 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all it is not love, it is pure lust and nothng else. I was in the same situation and to some extent I am still in it and in fact I had posed a similiar question. Please cut out the love bit. The problem is , a woman always tries to get emotionally involved in such matters. This should not happen. Do not bring emotion and the notion of an affair into it. What you both desire is a short term affair--- a fling. Do go ahead and have a fling. Enjoy the sex and company for a week or say 15 days, maximum 1 month. After that go back into your normal lives and your marriage. Forgetting the other person is difficult but just convert him into a family friend and never ever have sex with him again. If possible make the person your rakhi brother and honour the relationship
In case you enter a long term affair then there is nothing but disaster.
These are difficult times, old values like marriage, divorce etc, has undergone changes. Preserve your marriage at all cost and also satisfy your lust. Some may say it is immoral what what's not immoral today.
2007-05-11 17:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by kamarjit 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, most marriages break up because the one person meets a third party that has what their spouse lacks. One trait that you've been wanting. Sometimes it's that passion you used to have with your husband.
She married the other guy! The grass is always greener, etc. If she marries the new guy, those feelings will lessen too. It's a marriage, so out of some semblance of honor, she should cut the guy she "loves" out of her life, because he is a temptation and it will only lead to people being hurt. If you didn't mean forever, even if somebody better comes along, you shouldn't get married. And ps, feelings can fool you. What you think is love could be infatuation. Love is a verb. If you can back it up with your actions and you honestly put the other person before yourself and your own desires, then it really is love. Real love is sticking with, forgiving, and serving a person at all times, even when the feelings are going through a weak phase. It's not screwing over people you don't even know, like the other guy's wife. Try to put energy and love back into your own marriage. It may take a while, but it's worth it. Love is patient.
2007-05-11 06:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. Eric Cartman 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This a a very bad thing to do. But if a wife no longer loves her husband then she must take divorce from him and then go with the another man. And the onther man too must take divorce from his wife. Just like "kabhi alvida naa Kahana"
But these two persons in love are not thinking of their husband and wife,how they'll suffer knowing this.
Bye from Bella
2007-05-11 08:18:54 · answer #4 · answered by Felicità 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah youre the same guy that asked the question last week what to do about the fact that you are attracted to your collegue's wife and are afraid a long term afair is about to go on between the two of you. You're married to a woman who is suspecting something already. You are such a lousy excuse for a man and a human being. I can't wait until your wife finds out.
2007-05-12 04:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think unfortunately these things can happen. You have to evauluate the marriage, why are you looking, what is lacking, and look at the consequences. If you are serious about your marriage then this shouldn't continue any further. Are children involved? If the marriage was strong this shouldn't have happened. Somebody let it happen, but why? Don't jump into another relationship until you know why you love this other person. Be true to yourself and look at the situation from all angles. Good Luck, life is not so easy at times.
2007-05-11 06:44:02 · answer #6 · answered by Angelina N 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both parties are single, then it's fine.
If one or both are still married, then LEAVE IT BE.
God, and society, frown on homewreckers. Don't count on anyone accepting that. Neither family will accept the other person or trust them, kids can get REALLY hurt, and could you ever trust someone who cheated on and left their partner for you? Tom Cruise's history was crap, and he did it more than once! Katie MIGHT be the exception; but if she is then he had to have changed beforehand (since I think he had been single for the first time in forever before they hooked up).
It's just not cool.
Think about it. Seriously. And if you don't come up with the answer of "don't go there", then keep thinking until you do, and are convinced by it.
2007-05-11 06:38:14 · answer #7 · answered by Callisto 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no ok thats a sign u guys are meant to be together i understand shes probly really confused but everyone wants to end up being with there first love forever and heres your chance. She needs to figure out what she should do with her husband. I dont think she likes the guilt of making love with u and then going home to him but by this story i know u guys will end up together its just gonna take some time. That was the best story i ever heard u no that thing everything happens for a reason thats what happened with u and your first love u guys met each other after 4 years of no contact its a sign i know it but good luck with everything i hope u get her back into your life forever and ever.
2016-04-01 06:48:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Already married woman and already married man "loving" each other. That only happens when you allow it to happen. When you allow it to happen, you've breached your marriage contract and should never go home again. However, you should be held accountable for breaching the contract and willingly pay your marital partners restitution for whatever pain, suffering, and hardship you've caused. It is being responsible and taking responsibility for your decisions and actions. Good luck.
2007-05-11 06:58:38 · answer #9 · answered by Worker Bee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That Married Man and that Married Woman must be lynched or made to join those pack of stray dogs that you see in and around India...for even thinking of destorying to families just for their Animal Instinct SEXUAL pleasures!!
I do hope and pray that your wife files a dowery harassment case, Adultry, domestic violence...etc...etc..and manage to put you behind bars and get custody of your kids, properties, everythign that you earned and saved life long!!
2007-05-13 06:51:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋