My friend is having a hard time at home right now. She is 13 years old. She has been acting depressed lately. Ever since we went to Winterfest for church, shes been really close to God. Her grandpa is the pastor at the church that we go to. Well her mom has strayed away from God and is into drugs and alcohol. Mikenna is very close to God and goes home from church singing songs from church but then her mom starts to bash her and her faith. This just makes her (my friend) feel really bad about her self. All of her friends tell her how great she is and she doesnt believe them. Just this week, she got grounded because she went to church. HOW DUMB!! What can I say to her to let her know that she is a great person and what can I say to help her get through this strong and so she'll keep her faith in God??
2007-05-11 06:26:36 · 11 answers · asked by I need him ♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Her mom is the drug adict. Not her!
2007-05-11 06:34:11 · update #1
She needs an adult to talk to her mom. Why not her Grandpa? I bet he already knows what's going on there at home. She needs to tell Grandpa about the drugs, and anything else going on at home that isn't right. He'll know what to do, trust me. If she won't do it, then maybe you should go and talk to the Pastor yourself. No child needs to live with a dope head, she deserves better. Good luck.
2007-05-17 05:42:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well I grew up with some of my closest relatives that became drug addicts..
the real prolbem is the mother...she should be sent to rehab.
or.....try to get the mother to go to NA (drug addict meetings)..
or have your friend go to NA meetings..that are for the relatives of people with addictions..
she will get all the help she needs, and it would be good if you could go with her, to help her through it...there are alot or counselers that will help her see it through...cause there is nothing a 13 year old can do to change her own mind..she is too young for that..she needs guidance..
search for NA on the internet for her...be a good friend..take her.....it's free and they meet everywhere in the world..and private 2
2007-05-11 13:33:05 · answer #2 · answered by avie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well one yar a great friend and yar need a big pat on yar back for being there and going this far for her god is looking down on ya and yar famil for this...Now her ya got to let her know and that is true have ya ever thought that ya can call her and read sciptures to her that lands in what ya turying to say to her?In the bible there is a index look up friendship and read it to her, look up family and read that to her, look up fath and read that to her, look up happenss and read that to her...Ya will be ministry to her and if she dont go to church keep what has been read in chruch and call her and read it to her...Ya got to know that god works in mysterious way ya are the one that are lord as chosen for this job and ya need to work with her and god work with her mother this ya will pull thrue just have fath in hem it will work its self thrue just believe in him and ya wont go rone.Good luck and have a great day Bodytalk
2007-05-19 01:42:14 · answer #3 · answered by Bobbie Berry 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this sounds just like my sister and her daughter my niece was being treated real bad finlly my mom and dad steped in and fought for my niece in court my sister is always in and out of jail and depening on what drugs shes doing the courts are usally will give costudy to the grand parent there is a option if her mom does drugs (not pot) if she does hard drugs her grand father can take custody of her it sounds like shes being abused and neglected
2007-05-12 08:34:12 · answer #4 · answered by tigger 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
My dear friend, we have been told that we must STAND as a witness for God, in all times, in all things and in all places. Remind your friend of this. Remind your friend that God has told us that we will blessed for being persecuted in HIS holy name. We have been commanded of God that we shall always honor him and have been told that "I will give no commandment unto the children of men, save I shall prepare a way for them that may follow me". I wish your friend and you the very best of luck in this hard time. God Bless and keep you, my prayers go out to you and your friend. Take care, dear Christian
2007-05-19 12:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by Spark of Insanity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her mom needs help and is exercising the only control she has left. She needs to learn this life lesson that she will encounter all throughout her life - people will work to tear you down when they themselves feel insecure and beneath you.
2007-05-11 13:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by bardstale 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well keep telling her that she needs to ignore her mom when she is on drugs and keep telling her that she is great.... sooner or later she will believe it.... good luck
2007-05-11 13:47:39 · answer #7 · answered by in a world of my own!!! :) 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like what she said, she should talk with her grandfather, he would want to help. Remind her she has G-d in her heart, and that will help her through dealing with her mom.
2007-05-18 15:06:21 · answer #8 · answered by Miss 6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no right answer to this question! Everyone has to go through s~~t when there young, it's part of growing up! All you can do is be her freind, all your freind can do is deal with it!! it sucks but thats life!! Sorry.
2007-05-11 13:35:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
The problem is her mother her mother is a ********.Hitting her mother with a rock will make her happy,
2007-05-18 23:30:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋